I was with this guy for 16 months off and on 7 years ago and then I broke up with him(Gosh I was so stupid and young) and now he is married and I think I am still in Love with him what do I do.He told his wife that I was his first love and that I broke his heart.Im so confused on what to do??
2006-10-09 11:18:26 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please stop second-guessing yourself. What happened 7 years ago, happened for a reason. Obviously, at the time you didn't feel it was a good idea to be with this particular guy. You couldn't possibly have known how you would feel about this person after 7 years. Plus, had you stayed, you might have never thought of him as "amazing", he would just be an annoying dude that hangs around you a lot and never picks up his dirty socks or puts the toilet seat down. It's easy to feel someone is "amazing" when you don't have to deal with the mundane realities of co-existing with him. Bottom line - get over it. The guy is taken, and instead of wasting your time on the fruitless "what-could-have-been" thinking, get out there and find yourself a real person to fall in love with.
Or, 7 years from today, you will be regretting you never did.
2006-10-09 11:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on and let go of the past.
This was 7 years ago and you're right, you made a mistake. But, there is nothing that can be done now. He is happily married and you cannot breakup a happy home for your own selfish purposes.
You'll have to live with regret but realization. Obviously, if it would've been meant to be, the two of you would have wound up together. But, god has different things in store for us. His wife has him now and you need to let go of the feelings you once had. You apparently broke up with him for a reason seven years ago, correct? And, although it may seem he was your one true love, there is someone out there that you'll find eventually that you'll be able to connect with on all levels.
The fact that he is married automatically sends a signal telling you it is time to get over this man you once loved.
2006-10-09 11:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the old saying, hind sight is 20/20. Just cherish what you felt, some ppl never love like that their entire life, congrats. I let the good one go too. He's remarried and happy. So I'm happy for him. You should do the same for this guy. If it has taken you seven years and his marriage to realize what you let go of, then you never wanted him back until he was taken. I'm not being mean it's just that I've been there. If you have moved on for this long then you'll be okay. Wish him luck and happiness and I wish you the same.
2006-10-09 11:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Liome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing. Marriage is VERY sacred. If he shall divorce his wife, then I'd say go for it. He probably only told his wife because she is his wife and marriages consist of discussing ones past -- loves, friends, memories. I wouldn't read too much into what he's told his wife. Knowing that being married myself, I'm not thinking this guy still has feelings for you. It was more a discussion between himself and his wife, which should be thought of as private. You shouldn't be knowing what he's saying to his wife at all. Stay away from him.
2006-10-09 11:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He is already married and getting ready to start a family. He moved on so it is time for you to as well. There are plenty of amazing guys out there in this world you just need to be picky and sort them out. Do not make life miserable for his new wife by putting this on her. Good luck.
2006-10-09 11:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do now is try to be happy for hima nd move on w/ ur own life. And try to find ur own happiness. Its not worth breaking up a happy home because you still love and miss him. Letting go would be the best thing
2006-10-09 11:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm sorry to hear that, but i think the best way for u to do is to get over, and move on, he got a wife, u can't make him disvore with his wife, can u? i know u won't right? face the truth, if u and him meant to be together, then ya shouldn't broke up in the first place, and he won't married, right? Myabe ya just didn't meant to be together, i hope u can find a new love and hope ya be happy after Sorry wat happen to ya.
2006-10-09 11:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ngoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You understand what was so amazing about him and look for those qualities in your next boyfriend.
He wouldn't be so amazing if he lied and cheated on his wife and broke up their marriage because of you, would he?
Butt out. Leave them alone. Don't mess with married men. Get your own man.
2006-10-09 11:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever thought you are in love with a 7 year old memory and not with who he is today.
He's had 7 years to change and grow in ways you might not like.
2006-10-09 11:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. In life there are sometimes many people that we love. You made the decision to move on, which in turn gave him the right to move on. He is married now and presumed to be happy. Marriage is sacred!! Defy temptation and do the right thing......move on. It won't be easy, but you must!!
2006-10-09 11:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Amy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋