Should a couple decide if they want children once married, before they get married?

Answer 1

I think it is nice to know if your spouse is likely to have kids or not before getting bound legally. But I don't think it is possible to know for sure about it before getting married. Time can change expectations and people.

Answer 2

B 4

Answer 3

Personally, it would be better to decide before that marriage that way you both can decide if getting married is the right thing to do. If one person wants children and the other don't that can create a real big deal once married,

Answer 4

Having children is a life long committment even if the marriage does not work out and both people entering into a marriage relationship should be in agreement on certain issues before the committment is made. My ex husband and I did not talk about kids before we got married. He wanted kids, I did not. Notice he is my "ex" husband. Often issues like these with finances and religion and political beliefs can be deal breakers without careful consideration before the "I do's" are said. But, experience is sometimes the best if not the cruelest teacher.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I think that it would be a good idea to bring it up before because that is a very important part of a couple's relationship. Also it's best because if you do get married and one partner does not want kids while the other does, most likely it will not work out very well.

Answer 6

To have children or not to have children..... this is one of the many issues a couple needs to discuss BEFORE they get married. The desire to be a parent is something that is very personal and emotional. If both partners do not have the same feelings, the relationship will not last.

BTW- there are many other issues that need to be discussed before marriage including
*Money management
*Where to live
*How much contact to have with extended familiy
*What would happen if one partner gets ill
*Lifestyle choices (drinks, drugs, etc.)
*And many, many more!!!

Answer 7

Definitely before.
You should also decide how you are going to raise them?
How many do you want.
Is someone going to stay home with them or will both of you work?
Who will watch them while you are at work.
Do you believe in spanking?
These questions you don't want to leave till after your married.
Marriage is hard enough without preparing, as best you can, for it. Make a game of it. Write down where you guys see yourselves in 10 years, 20 years.
Life will bring you a ton of surprises, and you will grow and change you minds about many things, but it is good to have some kind base to start with.

Answer 8

at the starting up, that's too previous due for an abortion so as that's no longer an option. The spouse is probable lower than pressure over the perplexing artwork and shipping and different issues occurring in her existence. that's an exceedingly annoying time for a lady. The husband desires to envision what's occurring of their courting, in his spouse's existence and attempt to take a number of that rigidity off of her. Wait till after the baby is born till now making any judgements on the topic of a separation. Her thoughts would substitute incredibly right away.

Answer 9

Defiantly before, as it is always best to get married with complete honesty and trust between you, if you marry and one does not want children and the other does than surly they will be left feeling disappointed and let down

Answer 10

u need to talk about this before u get married, its to important of an issue, to put off, could make or break the deal, but when u are talking about children, thats another life...they come first, need to know what the 2 of u are expecting before the i dos.