He says that he wants me, but each time it happens i feel so bad. He has a different excuse every time. His latest excuse is that he is depressed, but his depression is only affecting our sex life.
2006-10-09 10:59:21 · 30 answers · asked by depressed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to the doctor with him. It's a common thing. Trust me, I know.
2006-10-09 11:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally with those people saying your husband should see a doctor, the sooner the better
there are so many issues that can contribute to this sort of problem & it can be made worse be the males own ego about his lack of ability in the 'performance' dept.
gets stressed when things dont work 1/2 times - then over anxious - so that it just dont happen.
you need to continue to be patient & encourage him to seek help.
there really is a LOT more to a good sexual relationship than just penetration ; in the meantime get some 'toys' you can both use
as a sufferer of depression myself & having had a partner with it- I am well aware of the things it can do to you & even though you feel it only affects your sex life- if you look deeply you will probably find other things as well
GOOD LUCK & stay patient
2006-10-10 01:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez some of these people can be brutal!! Anyhow I"m not one of those people, accually I can say I've been there. Somtimes, its stress, depression, anxiety. Whatever the case tell him not to be embarrased about seeing a doctor. That's what they are there for, and even if he prescribes Viagra. It's not a big deal, all it has to be is a secret between the both of you. Dont be upset, i'm sure it has nothing to do with you at all. If you dont suspect infidelity, then I'm sure its more medical than anything else. Dont give up try somthing new, wear somthing sexy, or nothing at all. Whatever the case be compationate about it dont make him feel like a failure because of his impotence. Take care of it as a medical problem rather than a masuline problem. Good Luck!! And dont pay any attention to these RUDE people online!!
2006-10-09 18:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a medical doctor is first, eliminate any physical problems.
If that is all okay, see someone that can help with emotional/mental problems.
Confession time. I, also had that problem. It made my wonderful wife feel that something was wrong with her, it was not. I was on some medication that caused that effect. After consulting with my doctor and switching meds everything rose to normal (and my lovely woman really turns me on). Then I had the reverse problem, although I had an erection, wouldn't ejaculate no matter what we did. This also caused her concerns, that she wasn't doing it for me. Personally I liked it. My "staying power" was amazing. I was like the Energizer Bunny. But, again, changed meds and that solved that problem.
The other side of that coin is penetration is not the only way to achieve satisfying sex. Trust me on that.
Success to both of you.
2006-10-09 18:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel insecure if he has trouble becoming erect. It doesn't mean that he doesn't view you as attractive and it is probably embarrassing for him as well.
If he's really depressed (it could be just an excuse to hide the fact that he has a hard time getting an erection) then he should see a counselor. Otherwise, his emotions will end up causing a strain in the marriage.
He should also speak to your doctor about his problems and try to get on Viagra.
2006-10-09 18:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression most assuredly will cause this. However stress will also. If your husband is having a problem at work or in almost any area of his life that is causing stress this would be the result.
The worst part of it is he may not even feel or seem stressed. But if ask I think he would know if he is.
How long have you been married?
Have you not had problems at all in the past and now this?
Age can bring this on.
One thing to know is he is not alone.
Get him to have a checkup and see what the doctor says.
2006-10-09 18:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husbund probably suffers from the inability to attain and maintain an erection that's sufficient for satisfactory sexual activity on a consistent basis.
Erectile dysfunction is common illiness, affecting more than half of all men over age 40, it is usually associated with an underlying physical or psychological problem.
The majority of the time there is some associated abnormality. The conditions that most commonly cause erectile dysfunction are associated with cardiovascular disease. They include high blood pressure, abnormal blood lipids such as high cholesterol, and diabetes.
here's a series of medications that cause erectile dysfunction. The medications that are most commonly associated with erectile dysfunction are blood pressure medicines and antidepressants.
People should be treated by phisicians.
2006-10-09 18:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's awful. How are you supposed to get any? Do you think he'n not attracted to you anymore, or tired/bored all the time? Will he go to a doctor? Well for your sake I hope he lets you get it one way or another. oral, or something-a toy? I'm sorry for you. I am a cheater, so I cant give you advice on how to stay with someone if you arent getting any. I would be having sex somewhere else. I like it too much.
2006-10-09 18:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad. Its nothing for either one of you to get upset about. Look just try dressing up in something sexy or something like a nurse or a made or chool girl. Ummm... Try working it up all day long. Leaving dirty notes around for him or something. Try some med. You can get over the counter stuff. Strip tease, lap dance... Umm.. Try doing it somewhere exciting somewhere were you can get cought. Or parking somewhere. Maybe try giving him a bj? ect
Do what you know men think is sexy.
2006-10-09 18:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should go to the doctor and see what is wrong it could also be a medical problem. Do not be so hard on him therefore that will make matters worse. Do not put the blame on yourself it has nothing to do with you. If he is getting older sometimes those things change but now they have medicine that can help him.
2006-10-09 18:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋