He's 26 years old that live next door to his mother and doesn't even pay any bills.No job, no car and a one year daughter and one on the way. His mother is enabling him by buying him things and actually telling him I need you you here. But I'm so close to leaving him because I don't even know what i'm here for. I tried to tell him to come live with me but he'd rather stay here. He's not doing nothing with his life and it's driving me crazy. Sometimes I wonder what is the point of us staying together if his mother is going to there in hte middle of everything?
2006-10-09 10:49:02 · 14 answers · asked by fromthecidstodasticks218 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are going to drive yourself crazy if you stay and continue to try and change him! There is a saying that goes: "You can't teach an old dog new tricks". I know that answer may seem crude and crass, but, in all actuality, it is what it is. Nobody wants to give up on somebody that they love and care for, especially when children are involved! But, what's going on isn't fair to you either! It's sad to say, but, I hold him only partially responsible, since it's his own damn mother that is enabling him. What she needs to do is show a little tough love! What would he do if she wasn't there for him? There may come a time when she isn't and then he will be sitting there stuck on stupid! He hasn't taken the steps toward manhood, obviously. Fathering a child doesn't make a man but supporting a family is a good start! It's better late than never! Perhaps an ultimatum of some sorts would work. Tell him you are giving him a set amount of weeks/months to put forth some effort. If not, you are going your own way. In the end, that may cause him to wake up and realize that his lack of actions can cause alot of heartache and grief!
2006-10-09 10:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by PBnJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a mama's boy.....your guy is NOT a mama's boy. He goes so far beyond that. I'm not sure what to even call him,other than a child. He has yet to become an adult. What kind of example is he setting for his children? He and his mom have an unhealthy relationship. If I were you I would run, run, run away.
2006-10-09 17:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have to work for a living, he's not going to UNTIL his mother tells him he has to. He has no self respect. If he none for himself, he surely dosen't have any for you.
mama's boys can be hard to deal with. Mostly if the mother doesn't expect anything from them.
Maybe your better off moving on. It sounds like his situation is something he likes doing right now.
2006-10-09 17:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BestOne on the way? By what you said I assume it is with another woman. RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do no walk to the nearest exit. He will never change. You will have to do everything. You will have to pay everything. The last thing you want is for him to come live with you. (is it really that good? he can be replaced with a machine) Do NOT get into a living situation with him. ESPECIALLY DO NOT have his name on a lease with yours. I speak from experience. Best of luck.
2006-10-09 17:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point of you two staying together. He's never going to grow up and his mom is just going to irritate you for the rest of your life...it doesn't get any better! Get out...you'll be much happier.
2006-10-09 18:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sydney'sMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I have one too and it's never gonna change. It's sad but he's always gonna be like that and he doesn't know any better so he see's nothing wrong.. It's up to you how long you'll put up with it.
2006-10-09 18:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would threaten him about leaving him and see what he does. If he just decides to stay with his mom then you are waaaay better off... i mean seriously? What is he doing for you? Ask yourself that. Good Luck
2006-10-09 17:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by malou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. This man is never going to cut those apron strings. You are only getting in deeper.
2006-10-09 17:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will stop being a mommas boy when his mother kicks the bucket!!
2006-10-09 17:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to get there on his own. No one can help or push him to that.
Unless you enjoy ongoing pain, LEAVE!
2006-10-09 17:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋