What do you think of orphanages for the poor instead of Welfare & Foster Care?

Question

My Aunt was a nun and worked in an orphanage.. The kids were treated well and had members of the community also help with their needs. They were dressed well, fed well, and went to school.
1. Foster Care - some people are in it for the money an abuse the kids.
2. Welfare - WHY should we reward a tramp Mom when she has more kids.

In the inner city they give the kids 2 meals a day at school anyway.

This way you can have decent people watching over these children in a group setting. Parents could get them back if they can support them.

I would NOT mind my tax dollars going to help the kids and I would DONATE MORE and I am sure many people would.

We should not give money to Moms with 10 children by 10 fathers, If they didn't get more money - maybe they would stop having so many kids...
Many also use the money (that should be spent on the kids) on drugs.

wendy - DO YOU READ? OMG
Take away the neglected children from the CRACK MOMS - NOT INTACT FAMILES.
Take away the 10 kids from the mom who keeps having them to get money from the government. GIVE THE KIDS A FIGHTING CHANCE to have a good life - TOGETHER - not split up in Foster Homes.
How many times do you see on TV, children who have bounced from Foster Home to Foster Home? A LOT.
This also benefits them at school. They will ALL go to a nearby school and not have to be so different than everybody else.

THIS WAS MEASNT AS A POSSILBE SOLUTION - what's YOURS wendy?

Answer 1

very well stated. i can't add anything, but just say i wholeheartedly agree with you.

Answer 2

I would love to see you on Keith Olbermann's "Worst person of the Day."

You have a very negative attitude about life in general. Is there nothing you can find that is positive?

As a person who used to be a foster parent, there is nothing more difficult, nor rewarding then working with these children that come from some of the saddest home environments I have ever witnessed.

I was like you, I had my "head up my butt" until I became a foster parent. It opened my eyes to a world I never knew existed and made be a more caring, understanding human being.

As a stay at home mom, your children must be grown. Could I challenge you to turn off Yahoo Answers and go to social services and sign up to be a foster parent?

Answer 3

I am sure that there are many good Foster Care families but the ones I have seen and read about do not appear to be that good. I am all for trying your suggestion.

The feminist lib moms put THEIR kids in daycare all day so why the outrage against these types of homes. The kids would have better supervision and care.

Answer 4

My grandfather and father both spent time in such orphanages because of particularly poor time their families went through. (My father was one of 14 kids, all with the same awful dad.)

Just ilke kids in foster care today, my grandfather experienced lots of abuse at night from the director of the orphanage.

Welfare is not for 'rewarding tramp moms' - it is for the kids. In America, they can no longer get welfare for the length of the children's childhood. Have the changes affected birth rates?

Your stereotyping is not productive - my father's mom had, as i said, many kids, and never used her welfare money for drug money. it was used to keep her kids alive.

Answer 5

This is so, so, so very wrong. You know nothing of child psychology and development, do you? Do your research!!! Just because someone you know once worked at a place that treated kids decently does not mean this is the ideal setting. Surely you have the cranial fortitude to know that children who grow up in orphanages suffer greatly from the lack of parental guidance, attention, love, and support that is inherently missing in the orphanage system.That's why children who have been taken from their parents only go to a group home/orphanage as A LAST RESORT, because truly educated people, who CARE about children,know that that environment is toxic to children. I've volunteered at an orphanage with the Big Brother/Big Sister program when I was in college, and I saw how neglected EMOTIONALLY (and mentally) those children were. As if feeding and clothing them was the only important thing! (According to you, it is). And, BTW, children are only placed in foster homes or group homes if they are being abused! (Not because their families are too poor!) And as far as people being "in it" (foster care) for the money, HARDLY! They do not give foster parents enough money for there to be any profit involved. If anything, the foster parents wind up spending their own money, in addition to what is given. (I KNOW something about this, and you're just talking out of your ***!) So this is your solution? Round up all the children of the poor, separate them from their families, and herd 'em all together in "orphanages" (even though they are not orphans). Why not then just put their parents in work camps, and maybe then we can come up with a better, more FINAL solution. NOT ALL OF THE POOR ARE LAZY AND WORTHLESS!! Some are just having a tough time. How dare you look down on them because your are richer (i.e. luckier). I already know the answer, but happened to your compassion? You do remember Christ, right? He talked a lot about this. THIS (your suggestion) is appalling and IMMORAL! You, as a conservative, must surely believe in the importance of whole "intact" (as you would otherwise emphasize) families, but do you not think the poor are entitled to this? You would break up otherwise functioning families simply because they are poor? HYPOCRITE!! You know what you are? You're a classist! Similar to a racist, only your hatred is directed toward the poor. Why hate them, they already have nothing! What could you wish on them that would be worse? Oh yeah, taking away their children for the sin of being poor! DISGUSTING!!!

RLP--Yes, I read. I read the research and studies done on children who are raised in orphanages. I read and study child psychology. (This is not b.s. my masters is in Education and Child Psychology) Plus, I'm a teacher, I see what poor home conditions can do to children and I know the negative effects orphanages can have on these kids. Studies also show, that in the cases of abuse, placing these children in a FAMILY HOME environment is best for their stability and emotional well-being. (BTW, chidren ARE NOT split up in foster homes, sibling groups are kept together. It is very, very rare for siblings to be split up.) And how would coming from an orphanage make them "less different?" It would make them MORE succeptable to ostracizing and teasing. Why don't YOU do some "reading" before you go shooting off at the mouth about things you don't understand! You saw something on t.v. that led you to believe these things? You do know t.v. isn't real right? Why don't you get out in world, VOLUNTEER at an orphanage if you think it's so ideal! (I guaruntee you will change your mind within the week.) Your small, narrow experience (An aunt who???...) does not mean you have a clue about these things. Did you even know these children?(Really know them?) I'm sure you didn't, you wouldn't want their "poverty" rubbing off on you, it might be catching!
And what am I doing? I volunteer with after school programs for disadvantaged youths. And I'm in the process now of becoming a foster parent so that children from abusive homes can have a stable, loving home life (something they WOULD NOT have in an orphanage!) And we're not "in it for the money" we have plenty, and if you knew what foster parents are given you would laugh, too. It's not about money, it's about caring about children and their future, something I've dedicated my life to. what are YOU doing besides suggesting hare-brained schemes to ruin children's lives? And, btw, you didn't mention crack moms in your question, so don't bring it up now, and as far as the mom with 10 kids...what if she's a GOOD MOM? What if, despite her obvious inability to control her reproduction, she's actually someone who tries really hard to provide the best environment (within her means) for her children, LOVES them, and they love her? Think about it...wouldn't taking her children be WRONG? On the level of Nazi Germany? How do you say, "Well, she really loves her children, but she just has too many!" The point is, what you're talking about is a lot more complicated than you seem to understand. The current system is flawed, yes, but your suggestion verges on immorality and cruelty. Surely you must see this. If you were actually a local or national policy maker, I would be extremely worried. Thank god all you do is spend all day on Y Answers asking silly, poorly thought out questions. Look, I may have been harsh, but I find your suggestion personally and morally offensive. Admit it, you didn't think this through very well. Please do some research on this, maybe it will motivate you to do more besides complain.

Answer 6

Your day will come pal & you will not be living at home where Mommy & Daddy spoon feed you!

Answer 7

i don't know but do you think if we fed the homeless to third world countries it would ease famine through out the world