He then fell in love with her for the first time, but she rejected him.
Months later...she got married to her boyfriend. He was extra sad!!! But he knew he had to move on and yet...he cant. Again...he sometimes sit in his room and cries. Its not weird or anything because the girl he wanted to marry rejected him and thats pretty sad and harsh.
He even went to school again for her to like him and stuff....but still didnt love him back.He told me this story yesterday and I thought it was so romantic, like those regualr Korean drama series? lol and sad.....because it was a real life love story for a girl. But it wasnt no happy ending for him. He seems so sad and thinks about her..I really want him to cheer up and be happy. Please give me sensible advice and help out this poor man? No silly or stupid answers please....! Be serious and if ur not going ot be serious...then dont bother answering this question. He cant move on!!!!! Please help out....=]
2006-10-09 10:29:32 · 13 answers · asked by Jellybean_93 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh thanks a lot people! Sure...read my second question, but not my first one.
2006-10-09 10:36:27 · update #1
that situation will take a long time to recover, since you are there to help, just be there and make him important, always take him somewhere, socialize with people. There is nothing else you can do but to help, it is up to him if he wanted forget about everything about her.goodluck!
2006-10-09 10:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that is Sad!....and what a good friend you are to try to help. I would first just let him know that it's ok to be sad( and its ok to cry,even if he's a guy!...It is good for Healing) over this loss. This kind of wound takes time to heal. Let him know that as his friend you will be there for him to talk to/or lean on. But he needs to continue on,.. He has to move on, and Yes,I know that is easier said than done...But suggest he take it in baby steps...try to get him out for a event/or just a hang out nite, with friends all around him. The first time will be hard for him to have any fun... but keep trying get other friends to help keep getting him out (like once a week for a little while).. not moping at home . when He's home, it's all he can think about soo.. oo if you can distract him even for a little while it might help him on the way to healing. good luck I hope this helps and remember sometimes the best way to help someone like this is to just be there and let them talk... encourage it! and most of all Listen! really Listen to him let him know that hes not alone that you as his friend care.
Blessed Be!
2006-10-09 17:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by celticldy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a process you may run on him :
Keep asking him the Question : look around you and find something that doesn't remind you of....(name of girl). When he
tells you what, ack him (thank you, OK, right etc). Repeat that several times through. He may go more sad at first. Try on until
he gets better and go on until he seems OK. Then thank him and end process. Repeat it afterwards until he feels freed of her!
I'm serious. Don't forget to acknowledging him every time he tells
you an answer. Good luck.
Ciao............John-John.
2006-10-09 17:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's married... Hard pill to swallow, but get the crying done.
What can he do? He's going to have to find something to take his mind off of her. My suggestion is get a "support" group of friends to take him out. Show him there is a world pulsating with girls out there.
Short, Tall, Skinny, and Fat girls all shapes and sizes, all types of interests... Grab him by the hand and get him up and out there... True Loves generally don't make house calls...
Better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. Well, the rest of the story is there is a great big huge group of women out there looking for someone to love them. He's dedicated. He just dedicated to the wrong one.
If he's a hopeful romantic, he needs to realize... As much as it is hard to admit... She was not THE ONE... Then you might remind him.. The right one is still out there and you're not going to find her in here!!!
2006-10-09 17:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by James B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to move on... You cannot make someone move on from a broken heart they are going to HAVE to want to. Although there are manythings you can do to cheer him up..Take him out with you on the weekends.. Don't take "No" for an answer
When this guy gets out of his room hopefully he'll find other things to get interested in other than the girl that turned him down..
Remember it takes time and only time for the heart to heal..
2006-10-09 17:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha you asked for help? :) i'll help your friend ^ ^
I think your friend should just move on even if he can't. The only way you can't do something, is if you tell yourself you can't.There's plenty of other fish in the sea:D i'm sure that this girl isn't the only one out there. He should suck it up (not in a bad way..) and look for other girls out there. She's long gone (especially if she's married..) and he should try someone else. :) ..That's all I got. >_<
I hope he feels better. ^ ^<3
2006-10-09 17:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by 2514 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good friend and listen if he wants to talk. Time heals all wounds, but having a shoulder to lean on helos a lot.
2006-10-09 17:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is sad...... Just be his friend, and try to get him out
of his room as often as you can. Maybe try to get him in some
groups where he can meet more people. Maybe a new class
or hobby. Or just get him to do things with you and your friends.
2006-10-09 17:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how to help cause im only in 6th grade and im no tin the love life yet. sorry
luv ya
ali
2006-10-09 17:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to tell him that he doesnt need her at all.
Say that he needs to move on.
Or,make him fall in love with another girl that will like him! =)
2006-10-09 17:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Mica Claro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋