am I so totally being used or what went to the mountains this weekend he called his mom said he went to mountains with a "woman" scared to give my heart completely to him makes him angry yet he doesnt even aknowledge we are together
2006-10-09 10:24:57 · 11 answers · asked by laurafox0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
div because he found religion and I would not give up smoking and live religious life wonder if maybe he is ashamed and thinks he was wrong now not sure?
2006-10-09 11:21:22 · update #1
he initiated divorce I have never stopped loving him only been with two other men since and will not give myself completely to anyone else so now there is a lot of trust issues which i could get past if only I knew where the relationship stands or where it's going I want more than b/f g/f type thing looking for commitment we had a great life together once is it possible it could happen again or am I setting myself up for yet another heartbreak?
2006-10-10 03:25:59 · update #2
It's simple really. Your both comfortable with each other. and probably meeting for sexual fulfillment. For what ever reason you divorced, yet you still have somehting in common. smart thing to do is find out exactly why you divorced. then answer the question "has he changed?" or are you just kidding your self. ( Smart Love By Dr. Phil McGraw) or read another book on marriage, His needs, Her needs, By Willard harley Jr. ) and see where you fit in his picture.
It sounds like you both stuck on each other. either one of you has to end it, or reignite the flame and get serious about renewing your marriage.
God Bless
2006-10-09 10:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorced 5 yrs, seeing each other for 4yrs? You don't say whether or not you initiated the divorce or if you are seeing anyone else besides him? Are you hanging on to him emotionally because you are afraid to let go? I hate to say this, but yes, if he hasn't even told his family that you two are maybe trying to rekindle the flames, then 1. He is using you for fulfillment of whatever needs he has or 2.He is ashamed of the failure of the marriage and God only knows what he said about you before, during and after the divorce to his family and friends and now he is too embarrassed to speak up or 3. He is just straight up using you because he knows you still have feelings for him. Whatever the case is on his part, if you have fear about giving him your heart again, that right there is speaking volumes to you if you will only listen to your woman's intuition. But hey, it could happen, look at Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton, married twice, oh yeah they divorced again :) Think about it girl, he is your EX for a reason. A leopard doesn't change his spots. I hope you make the right decision. Take care.
2006-10-09 18:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by anyoneawake? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes me wonder why the two of you split up and whether or not it was a nasty divorce... etc. And if his family would give him an extremely hard time for getting back together with you (or something??). I don't know the details though so I hate to assume. But the situation doesn't sound good for you. Perhaps he's not intending to make this a permanent thing as is merely lonely or, yes, using you for a 'good time'. You have to decide whether or not you can continue to live with the situation the way that it is.
2006-10-09 17:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I am a little slow on the draw....but...umm....if you divorce someone is that not because you don't want to be with them? Or do I have this all wrong? Why would you give your heart completely to him now....didn't you do that the first time around? Is this not like trading in your car for a new one....and then going back to the dealership and telling them you want to drive your old car to work? Sorry I don't get this one....at all.
2006-10-09 17:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's common for divorces' to spend time together because they haven't moved on, it's comfortable and they feel "ok" about having sex together. Unfortunately, there is no comittment involved either, so you are on your own and it sounds like you already know that. Get smart, lady and stop giving him what he should be earning. Either re-marry the guy or get out! Do it today! You go, girl!
2006-10-09 17:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have remarried after divorce and have been happy.
Yours could be another one, if both of you are willing to work on your problems together.
2006-10-10 13:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime a man does not want to tell people he is with you or seeing you, it usually means he is ashamed or embarrassed. You should be insulted. Drop him for good time.
2006-10-09 17:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you still with him after the divorce?
2006-10-09 17:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorced? ok! seeing=dating? why
if dating why divorced?
2006-10-09 17:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to say that if he is using you and you are stupid enough to let him than you deserve it!! i love to be mean but i feel for you and i really am sorry to have to say it so bluntely!!
2006-10-09 17:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋