Since the 8th september, my partner did an annulment form for the church, so that we could get married. Since then she has become distance towards me, very snappy, harsh tone, no affection or physcial contact. At one point she wanted to end the relationship. She has now amitted to being depressed and seen the doctor. And is recieving treatment towards it. However she still contiunes to be distant to me, when I asked how the relationship is or or if things will get better it's a " DON'T KNOW ". living in this environment is hurtful. I've told her how much I love her and care for her. But if she loved me back would she treat me like this?. The lack of contact, she moves away from even when I try and hug her or hold her hand, is frustrating but does it mean something else?
2006-10-09 10:12:32 · 11 answers · asked by wondergeezer 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"Don't know" means just that...she doesn't know! She may be feeling confused about her feelings and is unable to sort them out at this time. She may be feeling guilty about the annulment, even though it is something that she wanted. Depression is a terrible thing...whatever you are going through, it is probably ten times worse for her. She is doing the best she can right now. Perhaps you should join her in part of her therapy, so you two will be able to talk about these problems under the guidance of a professional.
2006-10-09 10:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is worrying. it looks to me that she doesn't want to... But hold on your frustration. The best thing you can do is ask her if she would prefer to not see each other for a bit. leave her in piece if that's what she needs. If she has some problems and needs your help make sure you'll be there. It's a hard decision to make because you have so much at stake but honestly I can't see a way of it getting better without letting a loving "heart grow fonder" with distance, if it's still a loving heart. Don't push her into making decisions at this stage, she can blame you later for it... I'ts also possible that she is simply a little scared by her announcement, it's a big step to make. Have a good think of what you can do, and dont' rush into anything now. Be romantic and caring at the right time, be persistent at the right time. You will need to see things clearly to act accordingly.
2006-10-09 10:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel I hate when people say I don't know because they do know. Sometimes you might of caught them at a bad time so they said I don't know because they were unsure. For example my friend wanted me to come over their house but I didn't respond because I didn't know what would happen from that moment to the time they wanted me over so I just waited when I realized I couldn't I let them know I couldn't so I don't know to me means yes but there are cards on the table.
2015-07-03 11:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by Goodvibes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that your girlfriend feels as though she has let her church down, was it really necessary for her to have annulled from the church, in the period of time multi nationals can marry in a registry office that needs no annulation of any form. Talk to her about it and see if that is the problem, it is possible that she feels as thought she has no place in her heart for God to listen (even though God will listen to all). Or it could possibly be that she is thinking along the lines of splitting up but is not quite sure. WB
2006-10-09 10:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cold feet? Maybe she's just working too much. Maybe you to need to take a small vacation or send her to a Day Spa. Just remember she's depressed she can't just jump out of it. It's like a stage and soon it might be over or it may take a little longer. Just don't think it's you it's something she has to deal with and she has no idea it's affecting you too, talk to her doctor next time she goes then he might be able to give better advice..Good luck and hang in there.
2006-10-09 10:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does "an annulment form for the church" mean. Give her some time to get out of this rut and stand by her. She needs you now more than ever but can't tell you.
2006-10-09 10:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by SexxyPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes women get 'itchy' when they know they're going to get married. My friend is going through the same thing, she is using all kinds of medicine to help with stres and depression. It's just cold feet. She loves you, stay with her. Things wil get better. Just keep to the wedding date and stay positive, she is going to push you away but this is the time that she needs you the most!
2006-10-09 10:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by marisapietersen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffered this sort of nonsense for years from an ex.
I´d just get rid of her if I were you: she doesn´t even have the respect to be frank with you about how she´s feeling.
She is going to become a real drag.
2006-10-09 11:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps shes scared? you really need to sit down with her properly and find out whats wrong. you cant get married in these circumstances..what sort of start to married life would that be if you cant discuss things openly before hand...
2006-10-09 10:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea. Ask her why she seems so distant, or suggest marriage councilling
2006-10-09 10:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋