Why do so many people get divorced?

Question

Why do so many people get divorced, especially those in their 20's and 30's?

Answer 1

You know, I've always thought about this. And for my explanation, this is why I choose to never marry:

Marriage just doesn't mean what it used to. Years ago, when someone said I do, they meant it, and it was forever.
Today, when someone says I do, it means for now, until I get bored or find another.
Some people use the excuse that " oh, I was just too young" blah blah.... But so were our grandparents and THEIR parents, who stayed side by side til death do they part.
Also, today, everything has to do with SEX. And people aren't as faithful because over the years values have changed. People tend to sleep around. There is alot of cheating going on out there! And many marriages still fail because of Adultry.
Nobody really wants to work at it anymore either. And like all relationships, it takes hard work.
So in short, the reasons why people get divorced is because they married for ALL THE WRONG REASONS...and never really cared about the commitment!

Answer 2

Because it is the easy way out. When something goes wrong in a marriage it is so much easier to just get divorced and move on instead of putting the effort into fixing the relationship. Marriages and relationships in general are work and a lot of people don't want to be bothered anymore. Plus I think people now a days go into marriage with the thought of divorce in the back of their minds. "If I am unhappy I can always just get a divorce right?"

Answer 3

Too many people are in love with the idea of marriage, but clueless about the real work it takes to make one work.

Women are still being told they are nothing with a man (false!), and if they aren't married by a certain age, they are failures. Many women end up latching on to the nearest man just to say they have one, then are left high and dry when the marriage crashes.

Too many people entering marriage without the mindset that it is for life. When things get hard, they want to run instead of working it out.

The whole idea of "starter" marriages that treats a first marriage as a practice for marriage well and/or better the next time around is a negative mindset that many couples have.

Answer 4

It is a complex situation. It could stem from any of these and more: lack of communication, lack of acceptance of each other, not willing to work out the bumps, wrong ideas and reasons for getting married, focusing on the physical rather than the heart. One question to ask before getting married...What if your spouse should ever fall ill, will you be willing to care and love this person back to health, but love and care for them even when they will stay ill? What if an accident occurred to disfigure the outward beauty, will you love this person anyway and treat them as always? What if when old, will you til death do you part? And what if one cannot perform the physical duties of intimacy any longer, will you stay faithful? Marriage and love is a committment. One must be willing to hear with the heart what the marriage vows truly mean before the I do's. The first and most greatest reason for a failed marriage is that God was not made the center of the union.

Answer 5

Couples forget to continue doing kind things for each other and this affects their love life negatively. Don't get discouraged, some couples never divorce. When problems arise and people are not emotionally equipped to handle the situation or clueless as to know what to do then the "fight or flight" kicks in and they fly. It's easier than staying.

Answer 6

People change--the person you married at 22 is a different person at 32. Some people, like a can of beans, reach an expiration date and go toxic. Sometimes you're the one who goes toxic but you don't realize it at the time.

Answer 7

Because the grass is much greener on the other side of the fence. Seriously, many people aren't ready or mature enough for what marriage brings on, and miss their singlehood...

And because at that age, people still change fairly often

Answer 8

Cuz it's hard to get along with another person for a long time. And there isn't as much stigma attached to divorces as it once was.

Answer 9

Because people want instant gratification and all happiness ,no work. They are selfish and self centered and don't think they should have to compromise. I could go on, but I'll leave it at that.

Answer 10

because they rush into mariage unprepared, not really knowing their partners