Can a young father ever justify taking his own life, when his existence is detrimental to everyone around him?
2006-10-09 10:05:40 · 23 answers · asked by Jake J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Suicide can never be justified. Its a chicken way out when you consider the heartbreak you leave behind................
2006-10-09 10:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your existence is not detrimental to those around you.. if you are a father think about your child regardless of circumstances, you don't have the right to take your own life and leave a fatherless child.. there isn't a problem in the world that dose not have a solution... seek help and find a new meaning to your life... stop thinking about taking you own life you have no idea of the devastation caused by such an action...Please there is no justification in suicide..
Help is out there just ask!!!
God Bless..
2006-10-09 18:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by fluffy bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just read a previous question you have asked; You must be really feeling it right now. What some people don't understand is that to be feeling suicidal isn't actually a choice, it is what happens when you reach the very bottom of a deep dark hole, think you're gonna be ok, only for the floor of that hole to give way again on you. For you to know in yourself, that you are a moral and upstanding person is why you are struggling with this so much, and that in times gone by you may well have shared the misguided views that some others have on suicide and depression and know that too, under normal circumstances you function well as a parent/partner and as a person, until a long period of unhappiness reaches a point of no return, which I guess probably happened to you a few years ago, hence why you fell into your current situation, the guilt of which and the feelings of letting down so many people, as well as yourself are taking their toll. 'never judge another until you have walked a mile in their shoes' (something like that).Words such as depression and suicide actually don't do justice to the actual feelings and emotions attached to such 'titles'. Please believe in yourself, be strong and whilst you sit there believing that you are letting your children down, remember that children don't judge and love their parents unconditionally. (email if you want to) Take care, it can and will get better, you will get from A to C without falling in the dark abyss of B. x
2006-10-09 18:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked in mental health for over 20 years. I have lost count of the amount of suicides I have been aware of. I have yet to meet anyone who as a result of a suicide in the family or of a close friend has felt that it is a positive thing.
It is by far the single most selfish act any one person can inflict on a loved one, either it be a family member or friend. The feelings of extreme anger, guilt and shame is left for the survivor of the suicide until the rest of their lives.
Walk away if its detrimental, that takes a real man.
2006-10-09 17:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one's existence is detrimental to everyone. He might think that now, but if he died, THAT would be detrimental to everyone around him. Especially if he has kids - how fair's that, taking their dad away from them?
I don't think there's any way to justify suicide, no matter how bad life is. I understand why someone would do it - a friend of mine attempted suicide - but it's really not a good way of solving anything.
Good luck.
2006-10-10 17:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not his existence is detrimental or not is debatable - however, whether or not his loss is detrimental is obvious; thus, suicide is not the best option for all concerned, mostly to a young father of a child who will grow up and expect him to be there.
He should seek professional help or the advice of clergy (his or any available), or the advice of local social sevices; at the very least, if he feels that he's harming someone by being in their life, he can simply remove himself and start anew - one of the great benefits of a truly free society is the ability to transplant yourself and start over, hopefully to repair whatever is in your past.
Good luck.
2006-10-09 17:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jake, your in my shoes, I often wonder if it justified in taking ones life.I suffer with Bipola rapid cycle class A, which is a terrible complaint to have, and yes I often think on many occassions that my life is worth nothing and people around me would not miss me if I had taken my life. WRONG, there some friend around me and support me, friends, my son is a big help. It is my son that gives me the reason to continue with my life because I know he is always there when I need to let of steam and I feel sucidial. if any one one is wondering why my son is useful is that I brought him up knowing that life is presious and should be lived with to the fullest. He is now 24 and how proud I am of him. Although I still get bouts of depression and thoughts of sucide, I read a book he gave me when he was 10 called to a very special dad. written by Pam Brown Illustrated by julette Clark. one particular piece I love is,
Thank you for guiding me through difficult times.
Thank you for standing beside me when I wanted reassurance,
Thank you for standing back and letting me go it alone when the time had come.
Jake as a young father, I beg you to seek help from either a doctor or councillor, I beg you to help bring up your own child with love and tenderness so, that one day, you also can be thanked by your own child for giving him or her a life to live by. Good luck Jake. WB
2006-10-09 18:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. God takes us, by using suicide you are setting your kids for a life with questions never answered.. Your behavior is subject to change, what seems to be a real problem right now can be different later. When you make choices to alter your life in ways to aid the kids life for the better then your own life will improve. The word "detrimental" scares me, what is it you are doing that qualifies for that phrase? Please seek help in what ever your looking for. Good luck and give yourself a chance.
2006-10-09 17:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that cannot be justified. Suicide is a selfish act and you may think that your existence is detrimental but I guarantee you its not detrimental in the eyes of your children. Do NOT put them through that hell!!!
2006-10-09 17:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by ????? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!! I hope you're still surfing the internet and haven't done anything silly.
killing yourself is the absolute worst possible thing you could ever, ever, ever, do! It would be worse to do that than just about anything else!!!!
Do not hurt yourself or anybody else ever if you can help it!
It would be better for everyone, especially your children or child no matter what to have you on this earth.
No matter how bad things are right now, there is a way things can improve.
If you kill yourself, you can never improve anything and your family and friends will live with horrendous guilt and endless questions for the rest of their lives.
I'm going to send this now but will type more. I just hope you are still online.
If so, please let us know what your specific problems are so we can help you sort through them one by one.
Each journey begins with a single step!!!
2006-10-09 17:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!! Suicide is never justifiable. There are so many other ways to help yourself. You can go to counseling and get medication and work through your problems. You must think about your child. He or she will forever be without a father! Dont do, just ask for help!! people are always will to help!
2006-10-09 17:10:54 · answer #11 · answered by wnramirez77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋