I used to date a guy for a while and he broke it off. He went back with his old girlfriend and ended up marrying her. I recently saw him again and he said that he was still very attracted to me. Then he kissed me in a way that married men should NOT be kissing an ex. Besides that, mutual friends are telling me he's not happy in his marriage and that I should go after him.
What does this mean? What to do? What to think?
2006-10-09 09:57:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave him alone and let him work out things within his marriage.
2006-10-09 10:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the guy is married - you SO don't want to get involved with him whether he's unhappy in his marriage or not.
I know marriage has become a temporary thing in our society, but do you really want to be "the other woman" and maybe get dragged into a divorce battle? He needs to be faithful to his wife even if they are going through a rough spot. Sounds like, by the description of the kiss, that he may be lookiing for a quick roll in the sack. And, if you think about it, he'd be "using" you.
You have more self respect than to fall for that, I hope.
2006-10-09 17:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it mean? It means he didn't like you enough to marry you, but he likes you enough to use as the "other woman" to cheat on his wife
What to do? Stop kissing married men ! Find your self esteem and find someone who would truly care about you.
What to think? That if he's the kind of guy who would cheat on his wife, why in the h-e-double L would you want to be with him in the first place? If you think he'd leave his wife and be faithful to you forever, you need a reality check.
I'm not sure what kind of friends you have, but you need to evaluate those relationships as well. Friends that would tell you to "go after" a married man are not people who want to see you happy.
2006-10-09 17:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by earthlove32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch this is not a good postition to put yourself into. First of all you need to think about this, HOW would you feel if your husband (happy or not) kissed another woman? He is a married man, happy or not he is still with her. Untill he moves out or is divorced he is still with her, and if he isnt happy HOW COME HE HASNT LEFT YET??? is what you need to think about. Obvously there is still something there keeping him there. you know what i mean? You should also put your self into HER shoes. what if he was your husand and she was was you. I am sure you wouldnt be happy to know that he kissed her.
And come on now if he is married and still with her and he kissed you, doesnt that show what kind of man he is? so he leaves his wife and you both hook up then 6 months from now he isnt happy with you, and doesnt tell you this but tells everyone else and kisses or more with another woman. my advice...stay away.
2006-10-09 17:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by peachy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably sorry he broke up with you. However, now that he is married, you should not begin another relationship with him. He is not fully available to you and will only break your heart again. Men will cheat on their wives but they normally don't leave the marriage for a girlfriend.
2006-10-09 17:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by farahwonderland2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he's a jerk.
WTF are friends doing tell you to "go after" a married man and help break-up his marriage? AND make yourself out to be some lying cheat who does married men?
Tell this guy to get stuffed. DON'T let married men kiss you again, unless they pay you- because that's all you are to them.
2006-10-09 17:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if he's not happy than it sounds like your ex needs to find himself and not cause anymore problems involving you. and you should consider staying away from him until he either leaves his wife or whatever. when he left you, he went back to her, who's to say he wouldn't hurt you again and go back to her? he's trying to get his cake and eat it too, you know.
i'd say live your life not involving him, obviously if he can't make a commitment to his marriage, another fling with you may not mean much either or is it exactly what he said, it's just an attraction thing??
2006-10-09 17:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No interpretation needed. Move on. He's an ex, and, apparently, a cheater. You missed the boat, he missed the boat, whatever. If he's not happy in his marriage, it's his deal and he can divorce, but not to get back with you.
2006-10-09 17:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by kickapookidonthefritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. You don't want to be "the other woman", or the cause of a divorce. If he still has feelings for you, he should have thought of that before he said "I do". You need to find someone worthy of you, and it doesn't seem like he is it. In my opinion!
2006-10-09 17:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by lisa s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a soap opera waiting to happen. Even if he leaves her, he'll be on the rebound for a couple of years and nothing he says is real. Run away, don't look back.
2006-10-09 17:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by slippped 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you to marry her and now you want to become a home wrecker?
What do you think??!! Leave it alone. If he's unhappy in his marriage, then let him do something about it on his own! Besides, why would you consider being with someone who is willing to cheat on his wife??? HELLOOOOO!!
2006-10-09 17:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋