i am too sensitive about things?

Question

i'm oversensitive to things people say to me,i take it to heart to easily and im oversensitive to my own feelings. how do i get over this? can one ever get over this?

its not as i am a kid either, in a few years i will be middle aged. but being over sensitive in this world is like having a curse.

Answer 1

Well it would seem you and I have a lot in common....

I will not say, to get tough...because in all my 52 yrs on this extreamly difficult planet, thats just a total waste of time.
What I will say to you is, that 'if' this planet didn't have people like yourself....it would be a living hell.
For this reason: You just need to know that you see through eyes that others don't.....

But, as you know we have to also look after ourselves...because its no use...being hurt.
So this is what I do.
I think about it carefully, did I maybe look ''TO CLOSE'' at something...that causes me to hurt?
REMEMBER
People like us, were more than likely born like this.So we have to try and fit in...

You may do well to look at 'where you can use this'...and how to shape it to your advantage.

Its not a matter of getting over it....but 'Shaping it to help this world'..with its many issues.
I went into the ministry...to help inmates, in Jail...And have never looked back.Please search for your place in this world...because you sure have one....!all the best.

Answer 2

I think the best thing is to set challenges for yourself like simple things such as starting a conversation with a stranger right up to more complex things like getting involved in a group or society and giving up your spare time to do some good while also gaining new friends, you will be suprised as each thing you achieve will give you increased confidence and believability in yourself and you will soon not be as sensitive as before or at least more able to cope when you feel you have been wronged by others who offend you, I too am very sensitive and am trying this tactic because it works. Do not change as a person just be aware of your shortcomings and accept those of others and the small stuff wont hinder your potential as a human being or your happiness. I think sensitivity in females is expected but I admire it in a man. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Poor you, were you raised by sensitive caring people or in a household of terrible taunting brothers who teased each other and fought often and well. Well we are all a lot more sensitive than we let on, most of us learn to hide it at an early age. There are some people who really just don't care what others think or feel. this seems to be a defect in a part of the nervous system referred to as the mirror neurons. Those neurons help us to understand other peoples emotions. People without this are psychopaths. Hopefully you are not a psychopath. Are you a psychopath? no? Good. You might want to take a dose of sarcasm now and then, a couple of jokes on occasion and relax. Once in a while you should offend somebody enough to make them throw up their hands, shake their head in disbelief and walk away in despair of you ever becoming truly civilized. Have fun. Try not to over do it, but a good shot of sarcasm can be just the thing, so long as you don't turn into a cranky old curmudgeon.

Answer 4

I know what you mean, and I don't know if we can get over it or not, or even if we should. It sucks to have hurt feelings and insecurities all the time though. You should ask a therapist this question, Not that I think you "need help", just that maybe someone like that could give you a better answer to the question.

I'm sorry, I wish I could do better than this...but maybe it's not such a curse, being sensitive, maybe it's just something you can learn to look at more objectively. I hope you find your peace. God bless.

Answer 5

I can only share my experience with being too sensitive to explain. But one thing you must realize is that you are responsible for protecting your feeling.

For me watching the news about children or animals being harmed can affect the rest of my day. So do I continue to watch the news, Yes but if children or animals are part of it, I turn to something else. I feel I have gotten much better because I watch Animal Cops because things always turns out good. So just by knowing that help me to cope.

So know that affects your feeling, and avoid it, then introduce it in little pieces and try to justify why it shouldn't affect your feelings.

There are two sides you every situation. I'm going to pick that side that makes me feel the best and does not affect my feeling, especially when I can not do anything about it.

I once knew a girl that kept a picture of the Vietnam Memorial Wall in her wallet. Every time she open it she got sad. Life is too short to be sad everyday.

Answer 6

This was probably caused by being
1. An only child....
2. Some sort of abuse as a child....
3. Problem with regression as a child...
4. Adolescent denial...

You should find the answer and having already realised you are over sensitive make a point of letting people be who they are and not take it as a threat to yourself......

Answer 7

We all follow patterns in our lives. Some are destrcutive, some are postive and some are neither.

If you want to change you can but it takes a lot of effort.

The solution is to tell yourself to stop when you are aware of it and then divert you attention elsewhere.

Thinking about being 'the issue' you are being senstive about is like picking a scab. Stop it!

Even if you stop for one hour. At that point come back to it. You need a break and then re-evaluate after a period of time if it is still worth stressing about.

I gurantee if you can tell youself your going to leave it for one day and then come back to it - it will be easier to do AND you will be far less stressed about it hte next day.

Pratice pratice. Realise your priorities and divert your attention from the subject you are stressing about untill you can look at it more calmly.

Answer 8

I understand exactly what you are saying and it is very difficult to deal with. But I have found if you get involved with volunteering in your area you will have less time to be so self absorbed. Not to mention that when you see what other people have to deal with in this world your sensitivity will be heightened, but in a good way toward other people.
Because you are so sensitive you are the perfect kind of person to help others because you can put yourself in the other person's shoes, so to speak.
Hope this helps. it did for me.

Answer 9

Stay the way you are... don't try to conform to what others think that you should be... instead, thank God that you can emote and care and feel... and thank Him too, that unlike some of my family members, you don't have Asperger Syndrome... which prevents such things from birth, because such people are destruction to their own lives and your loving heart!

We already live in an Asperger world... it is endemic now... read the experts and discover... and I blame vaccination for my son's AS, because it almost killed him as a baby!

I've shared my life with people with AS for thirty years and can spot it within seconds of meeting people with it and... can spot it online too... sadly, far to common now!

Answer 10

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that! I used to be that way too.

Actually, that was the first sign of my depression. I went to see a therapist, and I slowly started to get out of that state.

Sometimes, people don't say what they mean. ..And it sounds a lot ruder than they meant to be.

I encourage you to go to your local mental health facility, and get an evaluation.

I know you can get over this! It'll take some work but you can do it!