how did you deal with death in the past, or presently? do you think of your own?

Question

do you feel that death is a final insult to a life thats studded with misery? or do you understand that death is a natural path for all flesh and smile, knowing that, when it happens to you, you're at peace with it??
i think one always has the power of choice in how to not fear death, and choice is always empowering...it almost amounts to seeing the glass half full <-> half empty? what thinkest thou dear yahoo answerer? (its my best friend's b/day 2day, he would've been 37, he died july last year, i feel sad, but know he's at peace and that helps me cope)

Answer 1

That's a lot of questions, too many to answer here in this small space...But I will say, dear yahoo questioner, that I sympathize with you today as you are thinking about your friend. Yesterday was the anniversary of my mother's death.

I think there is a misconception about the phrase "dealing with death." People tend to think you are dealing with it well if you are okay with it, you think of happy thoughts about the person, you're not crying anymore, etc.

Well-intentioned friends try to cheer people up at a funeral, or at least ease the pain, by saying they're in a better place, or they're at peace now, and you should be glad you knew them, things like that. I certainly don't argue with any of those things, but...

It's also okay to just be sad, be angry that they were taken so young, be upset that you can't be with them, and cry. That's all part of dealing with it well. Unless a grieving person allows herself/himself to go through that tumultuous river of pain, they can't get to the peace on the other side.

Answer 2

Although I endeavor to not subscribe to any one belief system, I do gravitate towards the idealogy of re-incarnation and fate/karma, mostly because from a scientific perspective, with some established evidence, it makes more sense that energy patterns of consciousness/lifeforce are transferred elsewhere upon death, most likely re-used again. From a Spiritual perspective, the idea of karma/fate explains much about what appears to be random suffering of individuals, born into many, many horrible scenerio's. However consider that if the consequences your born into are the result, or results of past life choices and actions then the world seems to balance out to cosmic justice rather then cruelity and brutality. I see death as a transformation weather that tranformation is good or bad is determined by my choices and actions in this life, "Your charcter is you fate, in this life and the next". I think it's important to detach from the physical aspects of our bodies and focus on the quality of our virtue's.

Answer 3

Death is not the end, only the beginning. I believe after death if you have pleased God, even though one be old when they die, he or she will look perenially young and radiant in the afterlife. Bodies and spirit are renewed and enjoy the peace of being in the presence of the creator. Live a few decades on earth at most, and its eternity afterwards, without time.
If you see death as a new beginning into eternal life, it will no longer hold any fear for you. You will be reunited one day and all of us who believe will look radiant and young, at our best!

Answer 4

im so sorry , you must miss your friend . i personally , because of an event that happened long ago , live my life as if i was meant to die 20 years ago and im having a lovely bonus i make sure i enjoy most things and equally sure i do no harm in case its tomorow for judgement my glass is always more than half full cos iv had my share and then some

Answer 5

Unfortunately, from the day you are born one thing is known for certain that you will die. I have lost both my Mother and Father in the last few years. They are buried together "reunited" as the headstone reads. As you say in your question it is the natural path. Sorry that you lost your best friend but look back on the good times you had together and look forward to happier times for yourself.

Answer 6

The fear of death is due to being in survival mode perhaps even to stay here. But I believe once we leave 'here' we continue to move on in a differnet energy and in a better place.

Answer 7

Ride the wave and it passes, it comes back round every now and then, sometimes strong sometimes weak. But gradually diminishing over time. Eventually you see colours, smell nature and enjoy the gurgle of a baby's laugh again.

Ride the wave and let it pass.

Answer 8

There is no death... there is only change... life long Psychic Medium... who had no choice in the matter.

Answer 9

I'm not afraid of death it's the dying bit that gets me

Answer 10

i never dealt with it i just tried really hard to forget about it. didnt work though. yeah i think about when im gonna die and it scares me.. it never used to but something happend and now im always paranoid. yes yes i know i need to see a shrink or something.