Both my boyfriend and I have very demanding jobs, and because of that we hardly spend any time with each other. This has been going on for a long time and we both are getting pretty tired of it all . Should we break up? We don't want to, so then what should we do?
2006-10-09 09:41:15 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you love each other don't break up
2006-10-09 09:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other and each are understanding of the circumstances, then I would say stick it out. I know it is a hard situation, but if you are important to each other, you will find a way to make things work. Why don't you try, picking a night or a time when you two can have a "date". If it can't be the same time each week, then sit down together with your respective schedules and pick out a time that works for both of you. If, after trying this, it seems that only one person is working at the relationship, then maybe it is time for a break. Good Luck!
2006-10-09 09:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Abby06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't break up because they have job demands. More than anything else I would think that would bring them together. Now, you are going to break up with your boyfriend who has a demanding job then pick up a boyfriend who has more relaxed time (don't forget your job situation doesn't change, your job is still demanding) Don't you think you will be stressed out out your new boyfriend? Probably, going crazy that he is out too much with the boyz. The fact that you guys have demanding jobs sets a stage for a better time (romantically). And further down the road when u guys don't have to work anymore you're going to look back saying "this is what our hard work is about" Listen to my dumb advice. The next one might not even have a job.
2006-10-09 09:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by ltzoflv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you and neither of you want to break up then don't do it. It just means you have to work at it a little bit harder than some people. How long have you been together. If you are both comfortable then why not try living together. That would give you both more time together. Or at least you would see each other more. Don't give up on something that you love just because you don't see each other. Make the time for each other. You'll see it will all work out just fine.
2006-10-09 09:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still enjoy the little time you have together then why break up? You do need to take a little down time maybe a vacation together or a weekend at a bed and breakfast. Or is it possible, that, like an unwatered plant you just haven't put any energy into keeping the relationship going, because the rewards weren't that great in the first place?
2006-10-09 09:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not advise you to to break up because love means more tham just letting jobs get in the way. Before considering it just plan out the time that the both of you have to spend with each other. And if that doesn't work you both need space and time. And during that period if you feel that you both can't work it out then its time for break up.
2006-10-09 09:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As demanding as your jobs may be you might want to schedule time together and put the other mundane things aside. Obviously you both cannot be working 24-7 so you have to make time if not then the relationship is going to fall apart, there is only two ways about it.
2006-10-09 09:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are looking for a reason to break up if it is a mutual thing and you both agree to just give each other a break and see where it goes, if it was meant to be it will work out if it wasnt meant to be it is better to move on now then be in a realtionship that isnt working for eaither person
2006-10-09 09:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by DEREK A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't believe you should break up, but compromise is the key. Talk to each other about it. Me and my boyfriend live 14 hours away, and we've been together for 5 1/2 months, and were still fine. So Just talk it through, and figure out together what you both want. :-)
2006-10-09 09:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by [poetically pathetic;; 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is one of those tough ones... This is where we have to make big life desissions. But there are questions you need to answer for yourself first. Is he the one? What do I want, career or family?? Is loosing a loved one more important than my job, or vice versa? Now if it were true love or if any trace of romance even exsisted in this relationship then this would be answered allready. Though it is never too early to be thinking about the future... Where do you want to be 10 years from now? Kids? Married? Etc..? Remember that family, love and life are more important any day over a job or any ammount of money. Take care of your needs and tame your wants. Don't let greed ruin your life or keep you from fulfilling your destiney.
2006-10-09 09:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are and how long you've been together, but here's my advice, based on the if's:
1) If you really love each other, have been together long enough to know this is a good partnership, then you should figure out a way to work it out. Put your job second, love is more important.
2) If you haven't been together than long, and you don't have strong feelings for him, then it's obvious you want to be free.
The bottom line is that life is about priorities. For some, work is their first love. For me, love is first, but it has to be for love!
2006-10-09 09:45:22 · answer #11 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋