I have a problem that I've never run into before. I feel a little scared because my lover is so moody. Sometimes he's hard to gauge and I don't know what to say to him. I want to tell him that when he is so quiet it makes me nervous and I wonder if he still loves me. I know that sounds ridiculous, but that's how I feel.
How do I ask him what's wrong without sounding like I have to know everything that goes through his head or sounding like I don't trust him or that I think he's angry at me about something?
2006-10-09 09:39:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me give you some advice......as a guy, when I am in a sh1tty mood, I want to be left alone OK? Don't talk to me, don't ask me what wrong - just leave me the heck alone...I promise I will cheer up in awhile. Oh and if I snap at you you are allowed to snap back - don't put up with my shite OK....
2006-10-09 09:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband of 2 years is the same way but at times I can tell when something is really wrong. What I did is evaluated his up bringing and you have to take that in consideration. My husband was raised by his grandmother so he is more passive and sometimes boring like an elderly person. So now I continue to be his wife and not his mother. Try to do the things that he enjoys doing to bring him out of his shell. And once you see that nothing is really bothering him you will be fine.
2006-10-09 16:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by mskelley4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would suggest in engaging him in some converstaion. Quiet does not mean moody. He might feel that he does not know what to say to you. Break the ice. If you can't communicatie your relationship will fail. Talk about something that will interest him and keep his interest for a while. Some sort of sex topic will be a good start. Ask him about adventerous places that he might like to have sex. It should spawn a whole line of conversation that will keep him talking.
2006-10-09 17:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably a deep thinker. Does he seem angry a lot? I am like that and my girlfriend is always asking me what is wrong. There is nothing wrong, I am just involved in deep thought. Maybe the timing is off when you are asking him these questions. I am sure he still loves you.
2006-10-09 16:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by dumb guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", then spend quality time apart and together reflecting. The rest will take care of itself...really!
2006-10-09 17:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my ex-husband for the same reason. He was very moody and could never explain why, or what his deal was to me. 7 years and 2 kids later, I could not take anymore.
Get out before its too late!
2006-10-09 16:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he drink alcohol? Use drugs? Seems like he is prone to irrational explosions. If he is not willing to get help, hunny, you need to decide whether you are better off walking on a mine field or greener pastures...
2006-10-09 17:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt throw yourself in the mix of his emotions...what makes u think its always about you. Seriously.....he has other stresses i'm sure...and if ur any kind of girlfriend you will try and let him be til he wants to come to you abou t it...if he wants to, if he doesn't let him know no matter what your there to listen...if it is you he might be ther problem, i hope u are sensible and smart enf to know to get out if thats the case.
2006-10-09 16:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u never heard of a mans space , it is like when u women get ur period! we need certains things just for us , stop trying 2 be so demanding u dont need 2 know if he is thinking about u 24/7 let him be , let him tell u what he wants and what he doesn t want 2 tell u , then that means it is 4 ur own good not 2 know.
2006-10-09 16:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by q45dip 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋