I want her to approve of my boyfriend which I am going to marry, but I'm afraid if she finds out that he has brothers who are bad people who've been in trouble with the law that she will judge him and think that he is the same.
2006-10-09 09:25:57 · 4 answers · asked by Flower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't let her have the say over you. I know I've been there I'm still there. My mom has never liked any one that I have ever gone out with. The man I'm with now I live with she doesn't approve, I have a baby with him, but he's still not good enough. I have lived with this my whole life. I just finally realized that it doesn't matter what she thinks as long as I am happy and you say your going to marry him so don't let it get to you. I promise she will eventually be happy because you are happy and that is all she truely wants. To see her daughter happy.
2006-10-09 09:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother has proved to be a good role model for you then listening to her makes sense. If a boys family has been in trouble with the law then she would understand that there will be pressures on him to do things to possibly hide things or keep things secret so that those brothers won't get in trouble. This might get him into trouble too. Marriage is tough enough without having to have him choose between helping his family or staying right with his wife. If he has nothing to do with them and they know they can't come to him for help then make that clear to her. Its not judging him as a person that would make her edgy its the knowledge that he might, with all the best reasons in the world, help his brothers simply because they are his brothers.
And mothers always want to protect their children and see them happy, at least the good ones do.
2006-10-09 09:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you want to be into this milieu too ?
Won't they be willing to visit both of you some day ?
Do you really know what they have been sued for ?
Do you trust your man ?
Then, lead your life on! One day or another, you'll be living w/o your mom ! Start on, now!
Ciao...John-John.
2006-10-09 10:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom that is the key thing you said your mom will learn to like him if she doesnt at first just because one is bad doesnt mean the other is if you love him then you dont worry about what your mom says she will always love you no matter what she will be ok do what your heart tells you to
2006-10-09 09:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by inluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋