I know that this may sound really stupid but do you think that it is bad if i want to watch my husband do it with another woman. I mean i would love to watch him but is it also wierd it i want to join in. I mean i am youn and i still would like to play around i didnt get to do this kind of stuff in school. Does this just sound weried. I think that he would like this too.
2006-10-09 09:07:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why dont you act like you are the other woman why dont you have your fantasy that way just a suggestion (hey maybe i should try that)
2006-10-09 10:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so I'm going to ignore the 'Ladies only' label, but maybe not in a way you're expecting...
What part of 'forsaking all others' in your marriage vows does this not violate? I think most of us have some kinky fantasies, and a lot of us play them out as a COUPLE, but when you bring in another person, even if your husband says ok, you have violated your own vows and are inviting a marital catastrophe. Look, I'd bet he would go nuts if, in the middle of a hot romp in bed, you talked dirty to him, telling him how you fantasize about him doing another woman. But that's as far as it should go. I don't see how you could possibly actually watch him do that and not feel jealous and insecure.
Are you sure you're not suggesting it just so YOU can try out a woman, or by doing it, give yourself permission to then invite another man?
When you say you missed out in school, you know, that's not so bad. There are so many sluts out there spreading their legs for every guy around, that they will probably never achieve the potential satisfaction that can be found in a monagamous relationship. Once you've banged everyone else in school, it's more like you decide who won the contest and gets you, or who will take you once you're used up.
Put all your energy into your relationship with your husband. Spice it up with clothes, toys, whatever. But keep it between the two of you. Yeah, you might never know what being with somebody else is like, but on the flip side, nobody but the two of you will ever know how good the other can be.
2006-10-09 16:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by newbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious about your marriage? Doesn't your vows mean anything to you. Who says you have to experience every type of sex act there is because you're in school. You go to school to get an education, not to have sex. Instead of watching your husband have sex with another woman, you need to spend that time growing up. Even though you're young, you can still live a respectful married life. Get some mirrors and watch you and your husband have sex. Bringing someone else into your marriage to have sex is going to bring about problems you've never dreamed of. Do you know how AIDS is spreaded.
2006-10-09 17:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a human being who is comfortable with their own sexuality and is growing that's about it. Everyone is different and this is truly most males fantasy however more so trend as females voices are getting stronger every day therefore not so much trend more majority than you think.
My personal take is that women are just too sexy, we can't help ourselves it exudes from us. Just be aware of your environment and relationship with husband. 100% trust both ways and even third party involved. Understand actions after-wards and emotions may not be what you think, expect, cope or understand.
Just be very aware of all aspects a lot of emotions are involved and take ownership of yours always good or bad be responsible Human Being.
And most of all you Rock nothing wrong feeling and being. Your Living and being content is an awesome feeling!
Enjoy exploring we only live once here you know?
2006-10-09 16:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by lati2ude20 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were watching your husband get it on with another woman, that would be OK? If your husband decided to get it on with another woman and you knew nothing about it, that would be? Such a silly way to think about marriage. People associate marriage with sex, if you still want to explore your sexual fantasies, then do it with your husband. The moment you have to include another person in your marriage to satisfy sexual misgivings, your marriage is in need of help. If you want to watch your husband making love with someone, get a movie camera and record you and your husband, get horny, and then make love!
2006-10-09 16:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probablly the most common fantasy for men. If you are willing, talk to him about it. If he is not, try to find other ways to make it appear that is is happening (I heard watching yourselves in a mirror give the same feeling).
However, be prepared for jealousy - on both parts. The thoughts of "are they better than me" can be a big problem" If you decide to go forward with this, make sure it is with someone you can trust.
2006-10-09 16:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not healthy or good for the marriage to ever step outside of it. What may seem fun now could have devestating effects on your marriage in the future. Visit this issue with a certified therapist.
2006-10-09 16:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not weird. It's a fetish and there is nothing wrong with fetishes.
HOWEVER when your fetish involved inviting other people into your bed, you really need to talk about this with your spouse, BE HONEST, set BOUNDARIES and NEVER EVER do anything that makes the other person uncomfortable. Inviting someone else into your bed can open up feelings of guilt, jealousy and CAN break up a marriage.
2006-10-09 16:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not weird. We all have fantisies, just acting on them can be the deal breaker. Jealousy rears its ugly head and you can be scarred for life. Rent some pornos, do outrageous things you havent done before and make your sex life more interesting. Bringing in another partner is asking for disaster.
2006-10-09 16:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by lee911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds weird but what goes on in your bedroom is your business. I would talk to my husband about it first and see how he felt. If he doesnt think he would enjoy it then dont force him into it. Their are other ways to bring excitment into your bedroom. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-09 16:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Aries Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you even get married? What does marriaage mean to you? I'm sorry but it just makes no sense to make vows to someone when you have the frame of mind that conradicts "Holy Matrimony".
2006-10-09 16:12:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋