im pregant but not ready i dont really abortion and i dont want adoption what do i do ?

Question

i i have the baby and give it up for adoption i will want to keep the child if i see it but i dont like adoption my boyfriend says he will stay with me if i keep it but he wants me to get an abortion cuz we arnt ready for a kid what do i do

Answer 1

This first and foremost your decision. Don't take into account that HE wants an abortion because it will be YOU who has to deal with that all your life. Many women have psychological problems after having an abortion and if you "really don't want an abortion" DON'T get one easy as that. As for keeping versus adopting; truly only you can make that decision. He is the father and your boyfriend for now but you would be incredibly naive to expect him to stick with you forever. The odds are definitely against you so it is best to plan that there is a chance he won't be. He doesn't sound too supportive of you so you are probably looking at a split regardless of keep, adopt, abort. Therefore YOU make the choice - either get ready for a child, give it to a family member until you are ready, seek a closed adoption where you never even see the baby, or an open one which gives you the option of seeing the baby after adoption. Sorry hun, play grown up games, make grown up decisions.

Answer 2

Don't have the Baby, neither choice is any good, but I'd prefer you give it up. You're not ready and once the baby is there it will not have a future with you. Just ask them that you don't want to see the baby and that's it. You should not be having unprotected sex, nobody, unless married, should have unprotected sex, You're letting yourself get into STD's, Aids etc. all these diseases are very prevalent today and I do hope this will teach you a lesson. Remember a baby is not a doll, it will take at least 18 years of your life to care for it and unless your boyfriend has a good paying job and can afford to give you and the baby a good life, you cannot have a child. The baby didn't ask to be made and born into an unsteady life, it deserves better and there a so many married well established couples who cannot have a baby, you will give them the greatest gift in life.
Good Luck and I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 3

Your boyfriend and you should've been educated better as to how babies are made. If your boyfriend wants you to have an abortion because you BOTH aren't ready .... he needs to consider the facts about abortion first. It's not just about getting rid of a child, the physical PAIN your body goes through is something he will never understand. And when it's all said and done, are you going to be able to look at yourself in the mirror knowing you did this for HIM and not for you?

I agree with the others, if you're not ready for a child, you shouldn't be having sex. I wasn't ready for this pregnancy, however, i was NOT going to use abortion as a form of birth control. It's NOT the easy way out for YOU, but it IS for him.

There are plenty of capable families out there that WANT a baby more than anything and would raise a child and give the baby the life he or she deserves. How is killing a child easier than adoption?

Good luck to you in whatever you decide. Just know what ever decision you make, you will have to live with for the rest of your life.

Answer 4

WOW U SEE HOW WIERD THINGS R HERE THIS GIRL IS PREGNANT AND DONT WANT THE BABY HERE IVE BEEN TRYING FOR 1YEAR AND 10MONTHS AND STILL NOTHING U DONT WANT I T BUT U GOT 1 WANT IT BUT DONT GOT 1 WUT A PREDICAMENT I THINK U DONT KNO WHAT U HAVE UNTIL U LOOSE IT GETTING AN ABORTION CAN LEAVE U INFERTILE FOR THEREST OF UR LIFE AND HOW CAN U SAY U DONT WANT IT THATS FUKD UP CUZ U MADE IT IT DIDNT ASK TO BE MADE U WERE A WOMAN TO GO HAVE SEX THEN B A WOMAN N TEL UR MAN TO B MAN ENOUGH AND TAKE SOME RESPONSIBILITIES 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Answer 5

don't get an abortion big mistake... if you can't keep it why don't you try to see what adoption is all about, but if he wants to stay with you then keep the baby you shouldn't been having sex if you werent ready your an adult you should take responsibility for your mistakes if your not ready to have a child you should have been aware of the possibilities of something like this happening. Im not trying to judge you but be real a baby in 9 months is the same thing as it is now you'd rather have your baby dead then not seeing it taken away from you when it's born think about the babys needs not yours it's a human being.

Answer 6

I was 16 when I had my first child. I choose to give him up for adoption to a family that could care for him and give him the life he deserved to have. To keep a child for the sake of keeping it is not only selfish but foolish. How will you buy food diapers and pay for 18 years of doctors bill college and on and on. Think about. I do not believe in abortion but many childless people are waiting for a baby to love

Answer 7

well....this looks like a pickle. i'm not going to even ask what age you are because this is never a good situation no matter what age.

so..you say your b/f will stand behind you no matter what you chose, but he does have a preference. so he's on the right track.

what do you want to do? parenthood is a very hard lifetime commitment. But it can be done. If you want to. regardless of what anyone may tell you, adoption is also a lifetime commitment. No one has a baby and forgets it overnight. Abortion also has it's own commitment. The real question is.....which commitment can you live with?

Answer 8

just remember whatever you decide there are no easy answers. you have to live with the decision you make. you will not be able to take the decision make.

so just consider what you can live with. being a parent is hard but knowing you had an abortion is hard to.

lots of people have babies and give them up for adoption and are able to still be in the childs live.

be careful because everyone cant have a child. something could happen and this would have been your only chance.

GOD BLESS YOU and WHATEVER YOU DECIDE TO DO... look into interner resources about the options you are considering

Answer 9

You've pretty much answered your own question, you should keep it and raise it!! You don't indicate your age or your educational level, but I'm sure you have family that will help you.
You were ready enough to go through the process of making the baby, so you are ready enough to have it, whether you want it or not is the real situation, and it seems that you have ruled out abortion.
Oh, and get rid of the boyfriend. He won't be around much longer anyhow. What do you mean "we aren't ready", you're not married, there is no "we". It's just you, and your decision!!

Answer 10

If you are against abortion, that is your Choice... so you are choosing to give birth... do the right thing and put the baby up for adoption, there are soooooooooooooooooooooo many families who want, but can't have their own children. Don't keep the baby if you can't afford to take care of him/her.

Also...dump the boyfriend and WAIT before jumping in the sack next time.