I fell in love with a woman at first site and have been inseperable ever since. She has been living with me and my parents think she is my best friend but she is my lover and I need to tell them. I was not gay before but this woman is my soulmate and I cant imagine not having her in my life. I want to be open with parents but I dont know how to tell them.
2006-10-09 08:50:46 · 10 answers · asked by Louise P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, don't blurt it out to your mom on her birthday like I did...haha. There is no easy way to do this...especially if your parents never had suspicions about your sexuality before. You have a lot of things to consider here...do you have somewhere else for yourself and your friend to live if they tell you you cannot continue to live with them out of anger or disapproval? That's the most major question. You know your parents better than anyone...how do you think they will react? Are you certain that you see yourself with this woman very long-term? Your best bet may be to write them a letter. I find when you put things on paper it is easier to explain all aspects of the situation and easier to express what you are feeling...without being disrupted. :-) Good luck!
2006-10-09 09:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They know.
You may think they dont but they do.
take your mum to one side and tell her mum I need you to help me explain the fact that me and x are an item.
If they dont know then she will hear it from you first and then you have soemone who has time to come to terms with it then you have an ally to tell your dad.
He would rather you be with a woman you love than a man you and they cant stand.
Trust in your relationship and everything will be fine, if you dont trust the relationship then thats a different story. Its your life they know that and all parents want for their children is to be happy.
If they are shocked its not that they disapprove its because they want to see you not make a mistake so if you know it is right then they will see that and be happy for you.
This actually is about you not them.
Good luck
2006-10-09 09:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by commentator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ones hard to answer but i will try, if you really love her then you shouldn't be ashamed of her and telling your parents about your relationship might bring you closer to them but it could also draw you apart, think of it like this your perants will always love you no matter what so even if they say they want nothing to do with you they probably don't mean it any way enough of me bafferling on, i hope i have heped in one way or another and Good Luck !!! : )
2006-10-09 09:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit them down and explain how you feel about her. Might be best to initially speak to the one with whom you can confide in most. Be honest, and hope for a good reaction. The most important thing is you are their daughter, no matter what , and you always will be.
good luck
2006-10-09 08:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by MrsMac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are NOT sure how they will react, you could aproach the subject of sexuality to see what their views are 1st, then if they are positive you can then discuss the matter in-hand by tellin them how u feel about your friend as already said you may find it easier to write it down 1st then read what you have written. if you get bad feedback from the conversation jus give them what you have written down.but 1st make sure you both have somewhere to go.
GOOD LUCK XX
2006-10-09 09:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by nano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
They may already know as other women and men found out when they told parents. But you know that you are going to have to tell them. Is one of your parents easier to talk to or closer to you? Good Luck and let us know how it turns out.
2006-10-10 23:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy, perhaps they have noticed, take them out for a drink and tell them, if they love you they will accept the situation. Good Luck...
2006-10-09 08:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call out in the morning for your Mum to bring you a cuppa and catch the pair of you at it. Might just about work
2006-10-09 09:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably suspect something, be more friendly around her ,in front of them.I believe if they care about you,it want make a difference.
2006-10-09 08:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, be cool..just ask your dad if you he has a few condoms he can lend youl.....if he does not check it then, they must be blind!
good luck anyway..sounds like a good set up!
cheers
2006-10-09 09:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Gary H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋