my husband is so proude of himself that he is not cheating on me and is so committed to our marriage!! whereas i believe it should be this way and this is not something that he should be proude of!! this is marriage this is committment! so am i right or my husband??he keeps saying that 99% of the men around him are cheating on their wives (which he thinks is totaly wrong and they are horrible men) but still it's a big deal that he is not cheating...so should i be really proude of him? or this is the way it should be!
2006-10-09 08:41:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that what he is looking for from you is an acknowlegement that he is doing the right thing by being faithful to you. He is right. There are alot of men who cheat and sometimes it is because there is no appreciation for what he does normally or if he does things that are rightfully expected of him.
But playing Devil's Advocate (your's)...
The next time he says something about it, I would tell him that it is a beautiful thing that he does by remaining committed to your relationship. Its good that he still feels the same way about you that he did years ago. But also, let him know the statistics of women who mess around ( and we seldom get caught). Who does he think all of those men are messing around with? They all aren't single women.
2006-10-09 08:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by goldenlifev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. It sure seems like it should be that way. When u marry u take the vow in front of god and the world. But few people seem to care about a committment these days. Your husband should have bragging rights. I could see where after a little while, you would get tired of hearing about it. You win the debate as far as i'm concerned.
2006-10-09 15:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the way it should be if you are in a committed relationship, unless you both agree to something different. I know that my man doesn't cheat on me and I am proud of him, but tell your husband not to go overboard on the "being proud '!
2006-10-09 16:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't get a cookie or anything, it's great that he has such good values, but that's the way it's suppose to be when you're married. Of course you're happy he is this type of man, but he shouldn't expect you to go on & on about it & pamper him every minuete of the day for it. He's just getting an ego burst cuz there's so much chaos going on around him w/ others' relationships. Be thankful you have a great husband, but tell him to lay off, you're not cheating either and you don't go around talking about it nonstop.
2006-10-09 15:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
this is a good question. sounds like the "men are from mars
woman are from venus" in that perhaps you are both
speaking a different language. I would react the same as you
because I think in terms of emotions and committment etc.
sounds like he might be speaking black and white practical,
male language. Perhaps he just wants to be acknowledged
for his dedication to you and your relationship.
where as you are thinking, of course he should be faithful
as it's part of your marriage vows....which is how I would think.
try coming out and asking him directly, what exactly this means
to him, and how this is different than the marriage vows you already took. you might be suprised by his answer.
I wish you all the best, enjoy the fidelity.
smiles
willowgreen
2006-10-09 15:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by willowgreen66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating can be done in a myriad of ways that does not involve the physical self.
His body may not have wandered, but I am sure the eyes and mind have taken some detours at some point.
We may be married but we aren't dead.
Faithfullness is always supposed to be there.
Does he want a medal for his valor?.
Maybe you could put it in the local paper about how committed he is to your marriage.
2006-10-09 15:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the way it is supposed to be but at the same time not that many marriages last long these days because of cheating. Be happy and move on!
2006-10-09 15:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady!
Your husband should feel proud of it and you should second him.
Make him feel that he is the only right man.
Don't give this feeler that you think different.
Surrender you ideas (for the time being) against him. You will change him accordingly as per you wishes.
So be a strong woman.....
Brilliant advice for both of you: -
"To be happy with a man you have to understand him a lot and love him a little,
and
To be happy with a woman you have to love her a lot but never try to understand her.
Best Wishes.
2006-10-09 15:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its such a sad sad world that men are patted on the back for not cheating, for taking care of their kids and for helping around the house. THESE ARE THINGS THEY SHOULD BE DOING REGARDLESS. Is he proud of you for not cheating ? You are right 100%.
2006-10-09 15:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should not pat himself on the back for something he's not supposed to do in the first place. its as though he's making you feel lucky he's such an honorable guy. But I am glad you are with a man that will not let himself be one of those cheating guys.
2006-10-09 16:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋