what would you do if your boyfriend of one year loves another girl and says he loves us both equally and does not know whom to choose?
2006-10-09 08:38:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should decide if this is what you want. Don't assume that this is a passing phase or that he'll grow out of this. He wants to date you both. If this isn't ok with you, you need to tell him that you're monogamous and he's not going to be your boyfriend any longer if he wants to see another woman. You can certainly still go out with him and whatever else you like just you don't be beholden to him or in a responsive relationship with him.
If you're ok with him dating her too, you all you need to lay down ironclad ground rules for how your relationship will work. How honesty will work between the three of you and and what the limits of the relationship will be. Also you need to be absolutely clear about who is intimate with who. If you're not bi, don't let him be.
confused about the possibility of a threesome.
2006-10-09 08:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is so ******* selfish. you deserve a man. Men make decisions and stick with it. You need space away and figure out things for yourself. This is not Grey's Anatomy! You deserve better and I hope you realize it sooner than later. I know you might feel you are letting the other girl win by ending it, but in the long run you shouldn't be with someone that is so wishy washy.
2006-10-09 09:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. i'd be hurt and hate him for a while but i couldnt stay w/ a guy who loves someone else. and that both equally crap..nah.. he's moved on he jsut doesnt know it.
If a man loves you. then he wouldnt even think about another girl.
2006-10-09 08:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do the choosing for him. Its best to get out before you get hurt or have to end up sharing him with the other. You deserve a whole lot better then that.
2006-10-09 08:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go!! Girl, Never share your man with any one!!! There is too much disease out there to even think about caring and sharing. Plus there are a lot of guys out there that would appreciate just you. So kick him to the curb!!!! Come on you can do it.. Yes, You can!!!!!
2006-10-09 08:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see. The first think I would do is STOP calling him my boyfriend.
Next I would give my self credit for deserving someone who loves me and only me. Life is too short to waste on someone who doesn't want you. Stop letting him have both sides of his bread buttered.
2006-10-09 08:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'd leave him....or at least cut off all contact with him until he's made his decision. It's not an easy thing to do but I think if you stay, you'll lose your self-respect and if you don't have that, then he's not going to respect you for sitting around and waiting for him either...
2006-10-09 08:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Carefree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be loved and have loyalty. If he's in love with someone else, let them be together and you can find the love of your life who won't be sharing your weekends with someone else
2006-10-09 08:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by zadea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you need to let him go... It would be hard on you to be with him. No one can love two people equally.
"One man cannot serve two masters..." He cannot love both you and her.
2006-10-09 08:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by serenesilence001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick 'im in his pebbles...and call me. I'll treat ya' slightly better than the five other skeeves I got on hold
2006-10-09 08:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck N Knutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋