she is bipolar, was found naked with slit wrist pumped up on pills two bottles of whiskey naked with slit wrists... i just got back from iraq, babies had glass stuck in there heads and two older ones look completely stressed out, i cleaned the house and bought them all new clothes and toys, they have all been to counseling, but for some reason i still want to get rid of her
2006-10-09 08:38:17 · 17 answers · asked by 7am gangster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Change the door locks and SH*T can her A**.
2006-10-09 08:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Steve B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow....not a very good homecomming. By the way...Thank you for your service.
Are you back for good? I can't blame you for wanting to get rid of her.......it's not an easy situation to be in.
I don't know if you knew she was bi-polar when you married her or not. I for one can say it's easy to overlook these things when your young and in love and haven't been faced with the stresses of life yet. Obviously it was more than she could handle alone.
But you've made some good moves for your children and that's the most important. If you're back for good maybe with counseling you can have a functioning relationship with her. Many do as long as they realize it's not going to be the relationship they thought it might be. Not her fault, or yours....she's got limits beyond her control due to her illness. You can work within those limits and make the best of it or not. It's obvious it would not be safe or good for your children to live like they were when you came back. That's why I asked if you were back for good......coz obviously leaving her alone with the children is not a wise move. That's one of the limits. You'll need to try and find relatives or other guardians to care for them if you go away.
I guess alot depends on how much you are willing to do. Personally, having met and known bi-polar people.....there's not any I could ever trust or beleive that I could really have a healthy relationship with ,even though I'm sure there's tons of exceptions. For me it was a massive rollar-coaster ride of insanity. When it was good it was very good and when it was bad it was hell. I myself couldn't deal with it and I didn't have children to consider then.
It's going to take alot of soul searching and also realizing she is your childrens mother. Whether it be their safety in visitations and your divorced, or if you try and make it work. The issues will be there and will still have to be delt with. Unfortunatly divorce doesn't make them dissappear when children are involved. I guess it's according to the state, but I've been amazed at some of the judgements ,when one parent is obviously un-fit for whatever reason ,and they still make you let your children visit them.
Right now though.....she has her issues and that makes you the one calling the shots for what's the best interest for your children. Good luck.
2006-10-09 16:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. If you're serious (which I find really hard to believe) then you need to make sure that your wife receives adequate care for her condition and continue to ensure that your children get plenty of help with any psychological scars from the experience. Whatever happened to "for better or worse"?? I understand that this is the EXTREME (if at all true) side of the "worse" scenario... but she stuck by you during Iraq... where's your loyalty?? You're the one who chose to marry a woman suffering from bipolar disorder... a MEDICAL condition that she cannot help. A divorce would further traumatize your kids... and I'm sure they would just want their Mom to get better... and the family to stick together.
2006-10-09 15:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consider some family and marital counseling before you get rid of her, that way you will know that you've done everything possible before you end your marriage.
It wasn't just a difficult situation for you being away from the family it was difficult for her too having to take care of everything. Believe me on that one, I've been thru the dealing with everything while my husbands been gone on his second deployment since 9/11.
2006-10-09 15:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Monica G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow the kids should never have been left with her in the first place. Thats too much for any child to go through. Get more help!! If this is all true I'm sorry....She needs more help and you need nanny to take care of your babys. Your babys shouldn't have to suffer.
2006-10-09 15:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first i would get her help and then see a lawyer ,about getting custody ,and then if your parents are still alive and if and when you are deployed a gain have someone you can take your children too that is stable and reliseable to take care of them,then you can decide if you want a divorce go for it ,some people dont change
2006-10-09 16:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by froggylonglegs2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is a danger to the kids and possibly you.Is she on medication for her illness? If not she needs to be and until she gets better she doesn't need to be left alone with the kids.If she is not trying to make herself better, by taking medication for her Bi polar disease I'd leave her and take the kids.Good luck !!
2006-10-09 15:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD! She needs serious help. She needs meds and therapy. But until then, you have a duty as a father to provide a SAFE place for your children.
call a divorce lawyer, and call child protective services and fight for custody.
2006-10-09 15:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by KB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of that *****!!!!! DAmn honey!! you could lose your babies if you don't!!! Take her to court make her pay child support or put her in a mental institution or prison!!! Something!!!!! Dear God that must have hurt to see that crap!!! I am a mother but I would never do that to my child!!! I am so sorry to hear that!!!!
2006-10-09 17:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by lady_lucktyree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh.......she needs to go home to her mommy and daddy or a mental hospital, i lost my son and i could never forgive someone who would be so neglectful, you cam eclose to what me and my husband have to feel, but with more then 1 life. She needs help no ? abou tit, and the children will learn form her or become her under the influence she leaves...they need help before it's too late for them, and then they need to be tested for bipolar befoer its gone too far and they can't try to stay level.
2006-10-09 15:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do what you gotta do do whats best for your kids cause that is sad I would hate to have more stressed out kids in the world shooting up people
2006-10-09 15:41:01 · answer #11 · answered by kandigyrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋