My son just came home a minuite ago and he just played with a girls boobs. He brought her home and I walked in on them in his room. He is only 10 years old. Her top was off and he was playing with her boobs. I never gave him the sex talk. I need to know what to do right now. I called her parents and they are here and were waiting on answers for a few minuits. Her parents say she never got the sex talk and the school never gave a class.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 08:36:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
What the hell were you doing leaving them alone without adult supervision? Children should not be allowed to entertain other children of the opposite sex unsupervised---especailly in their bedroom!
*I really doubt this question is real....what parents would really use Yahoo! Answers to solve this kind of problem*
2006-10-09 08:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by sonik_starz 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Tell your son to back off. I mean, he can't just be all "touchy touchy!!!". You need to tell him about the birds and the bees NOW. I think you should sit down with her parents, and you and your son and and the girl, and talk about the birds and the bees and the boob fondle together there. Sure, it'll be kinda embarrassing, but hey, it's part of the kids punishment.
If you don't do this now, when your son gets older, (say 13, when the hormones REALLY kick in) he will think it will be OK to disrespect girls in this manner. Like, "hey let me squeeze ya". Then when he is an adult it will be even worse.
This might sound stupid, "but he is only 10..." and stuff, but let me tell you, it is what's going to happen. Things like this happen at home and only progress.
2006-10-09 16:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Kids are having sex earlier and earlier. The sex talk should be given a few times throughout a child's life. As soon as they show signs of hitting puberty, they should hear it. The best thing to do right now is sit them both down and explain things to them. Let them know what the consequences of unprotected sex are, and the benefits of abstinence. If you aren't able to listen and explain, this will continue, and you may end up with grandchildren before you know it.
2006-10-09 15:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by ivoryhalo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
curiosity. 10 is normal for the kids to want to do stuff like that, its up to you to make sure that they dont.
Its up to you to start talking about it because hes going to need to know all the feelings he is going to be having from now on.
See, kids watch movies etc and then even if your kid hasnt , he hears it from other kids.
I just hope you didnt yell at them. It would probablly be my first reaction but since they never got the talk to begin with, they started playing doctor on their own. You need to keep the lines of communication open so he comes to you with any questions .and there will be tons.
I only cringe thinking that could be my daughter 4 years from now.
2006-10-09 15:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by chiara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At ten its normal. Kids do stupid things. I did. Just sit down with both the kids and tell them that they need to keep there hands to themselves. Once the other parents leave you can talk to your son and tell him this is inappropriate! Its hard giving the sex talk at ten so I would keep it minimal but do let him know that it is wrong to do things like that to girls right now
2006-10-09 15:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is sit them both down and hash it out, find-out where they thought of doing that, if you want, but don't make a big deal out of it, otherwise they will, too, and they may be alot more sneaky next time, instead of coming to you and being honest and open......
they heard about it somewhere, right? just ask them calmly where, and let that lead you into the "talk", ask them what they "know" and correct them or fill-in the blanks at your discretion.........atleast that's what my mom did and I turned-out pretty normal, I think ~smile~ good luck, and hopefully everything gets resolved. Remember, honesty is the best policy.
2006-10-09 15:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kitten 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they were both curious. Kids at that age are much more knowledgeable (sp?) than you might think. You need to explain to them that those are their bodies and they shouldn't be sharing certain parts until they are older. Explain that although they shouldn't be ashamed of what they've done, curiousity is natural, but they should respect themselves and their bodies and understand that what they were doing is something that only adults should do.
2006-10-09 15:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by koral2800 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely time. Be direct let them both know it isn't dirty but only for adults. You don't want to traumatize them, but let them know that sort of thing is not allowed at their age. If you feel they are to young for the whole talk then wait on some of it, but you must talk to them about what happened today.
2006-10-09 15:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by kna0831 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its not the schools job to teach sex ed, its the parents/gaurdians task. the school can teach health which is good but a kid needs to hear it from the horses mouth itself. although the kids are a bit young just teach tell them no touchy-touchy, until they either move out to college or get married. just tell them what you know about the topic. make them watch a film on vd's and stuff. that should set them straight.
im a guy (get over it) and the sex talk my dad gave me was, if i get a girl pregnant i have to marry her.
2006-10-09 15:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by jamz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should discuss sex with your children as soon as they can say "penis" and "vagina". Ignorance is a great way for things like this to happen. Let him know that he did nothing wrong - neither did she. They are curious about each other's changing bodies and since nobody taught them about each other then they took it upon themselves to find out on their own. Make sure they understand it is healthy and natural to want to know about anatomy and please explain to them about sex and periods, puberty, etc so they don't end up 15 and in hot water because somebody is pregnant because they did not know about resources like planned parenthood or how to properly use a condom. Email me h_tidewell@yahoo.com
2006-10-09 15:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by h_tidewell 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋