I have a 2 yr. old son(3 in feb.) now and I am due on Oct. 12th to have our second child. I was wondering how your child adjusted to having his parents attention to his self and then the baby came along and took some of that attention away. I don't want my son to become upset or feel that he is less important so any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.
2006-10-09 08:33:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My daughter was 9 mos when I conceived and 18 mos when we had our son.
She felt most comfortable and appreciated when I would let her go get HER BROTHERS diaper or when she was allowed to help feed him. It made her feel like we wouldn't have made it without her there to help.
You may even want to let him help pick out a name for your new little one.
Don't refer to the baby as the NEW BABY it may make your son feel like he's not as important. Refer to the baby by it's name or your bubby or your sissy.
Good luck.
2006-10-09 10:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually at the age of 2 children don't realize that a new baby needs alot of attention. So they just think your leaving them out. So just make sure that when your doing things with the newborn your 2 yr. old can help out. Even such as changing a diaper, telling them that they can go get something and hand it too you. Or even bottle feeding. Including your child into everything will make a big difference. Just remember, if your child does get upset at first then give them some time...they'll come around as long as you never stop giving them attention also.
2006-10-09 08:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by shontai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son was almost 3 when we had our second child. My son adjusted very well t his little brother. I didn't isolate the baby from my son like some parents do. Not allowing there children to go near the baby or touch the baby. He was curious wanted to hold him and kiss him also always wanted to help with taking care of the baby. An ice breaker for me was bring a toy home for my oldest son and telling him the baby bought him a gift. He was 2 1/2 he was extremely happy. hope this helps a little.
2006-10-09 08:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the transition from 1 child to 2 is said to be the hardest. Honestly, my oldest adjusted very well. he had an abundance of cousins to play with so he pretty much ignored me most of the time. What is often suggested is making mommy and me time with the oldest everytime the baby took a nap. my son grew to learn if he helped me with chores while i was putting the baby to sleep him and i could do something fun, just the two of us. It was like a timer, once i sat down to feed the baby, my son knew we would sit down and play a game as soon as the baby fell asleep. he would then clear the table or clear the floor for us to have our time together. rituals is often the key. doing things together the baby can't do. such as eating ice cream, play baseball, going to the park on the swings. stuff like that.
2006-10-09 08:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was 2 when my daughter was born and we allowed him to help feed her when he was sitting on the couch. Get your 2 year old involved in daily activities with the new arrival, like getting a diaper for mommy, or help feed baby or just let the 2 year old interact with the new addition. The 2 year old will feel important, and make sure you praise him/her for all the good help they are giving you.
2006-10-09 08:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Great Nurse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a little gift for your child and pack that in your hospital bag as a "congratulations on being a big brother". when he comes to see the baby at the hospital~give him his gift! the most important thing is to make him feel like he is important in the life of the baby... let him help with simple things but make him feel as if NO ONE could have done the job as well as he did.
you're going to feel like you have no time for him for the first month while you are so tired AND getting use to a new schedule... so just include him in everything. if he feels he is part of everything he won't feel like he's missed out on ANYTHING!
2006-10-09 08:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him feel real important as a "big brother," some hospitals even sell t-shirts that say big brother or sister on them. When someone comes over make a big deal of introducing him as the big brother of the baby. Maybe put a sign on his door that says big brother and so on!
2006-10-09 08:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont push the new baby on him let him join as he wants to...let him help hold the bottle an when people come over for the baby let him be the little hostess who introduces the baby an such
2006-10-09 08:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Amers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can hold the baby and play with your older son at the same time. You can also include your older son in changing his brother's diapers and clothes and giving him a bath. Let your older son help feed the baby ,also. Hope I could help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 08:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by twirlsgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't personally had that experience, but I would think that if you try to involve him with the care of the baby, and also give him special time where he has you to himself, then things should work out pretty well.
2006-10-09 08:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋