I am engaged to be married next year-I am MADLY inlove with him. I am not attracted to ANY other men, not even movie stars. I have been this way ever since we met 3 years ago.
How can I tell if the feeling is mutual? It would be stupid to say he doesnt love me because I know he loves me. BUT he doesnt kiss me as much as I want or make love, or talk about our relationship as much as I want to.
He seems VERY comfortable with me because he knows how I feel.
How can I get him to step it up a notch?
2006-10-09 08:25:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have made him very comfortable, so tell him whats on your mind or guess what your marriage will be like he might be getting bored.
2006-10-09 08:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dianna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it would serve your relationship well if you stopped being quite so desperate. Play it cool, don't be smothering him with affection. You can't "tell" exactly how he feels about you; nobody can. There are no guarantees in relationships, only approximations and best guesses. If he wants to be around you and enjoys spending time together, it's the best way to "tell" whether he's into you. Don't try to make him into something he isn't, enjoy him the way he IS.
2006-10-09 15:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By his actions towards you. Words can deceive, but not actions.
Where does he spend all of his spare time? Is it with you or is it at work?
Does he come home late from work every day?
Can you account for the bulk of his time away?
Does he provide well for you?
Does he allow you space to pursue personal interests?
Try taking the initiative with love making. If he doesn't respond then it can open the door for discussion for you to get the answers from the only one that can truly tell you.
2006-10-09 15:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even married and you're already worried.He may love you,but not as much as you love him.
You better have a heart to heart talk with him now.Men only get worse.If he's slowing down after only 3 yrs., that should send up a red flag.
2006-10-09 15:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by oneidmnstr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez, will you relax and let the guy breathe? Quit obsessing OK? Breathe into a paper bag or something. If you don't stop all this smothering and obsessing, your guy is going to eventually get tired of it and pull back and you aren't going to like that. So RELAX.......
2006-10-09 16:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will tell you how ,make him a nice romantic dinner and have a romantic table setting and then after the meal is over go draw a nice hot bath and lead him to the bath and it will work ,justlet it flow as you go .im a hopeless romantic myself let me know if it works
2006-10-09 15:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by froggylonglegs2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it out there. Tell him its bothering you. He probably doesn't even realize it. Be open....
Try something out of character. Put a little spice back in the relationship.
2006-10-09 15:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just jump on him and start kissing him, he probably is just comfotable so he doesnt have the need to presue but he probably wants too just needs you to start the motion.
2006-10-09 15:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by Steve Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are really not into talking - so maybe you could mention that you would like it if he kissed you more often- (kissing leads to other things)
2006-10-09 15:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have come the room..he just want hold you..he alway want you in the best things..give you everything..you do the same..it's not all about money
2006-10-09 15:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋