I let my husband go out with his friends on Saturday night as long as he came home at three am. Since the bars close here at 2 am. Well he didn't come home until four and he is NEVER late. He has always been the best husband I could ever want. It seems to me that whenever he hangs out with this one particular friend he always acts badly. I know this other friend does whatever he wants to and his wife doesn't say anything. I don't know what to do should I prevent my husband from hanging out with this one person? I think this friend of his has no respect for me because it's always like this with him.
2006-10-09 08:17:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The reason he came home late is because his friend was drivinng and had to take everyone else home. Yes he apologized and yes we talked about it but I still have hurt feelings over it.
2006-10-09 08:37:47 · update #1
i don't like getting into married peoples biz; but there should be NO reason why ANY ONES spouse should be out till 4am (or even 2am) for no reason! especially with the other spouse not there....
this is MARRIAGE life, not college life; the going out on Sat. nights till 2am or 3 or 4am should've stopped a long time ago when yall said "I do"
what could they possibly be doing the whole night? i love to party too, but damned if I leave my spouse at home till 4am to hang out with the homies?!
2006-10-09 08:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think his friend has respect for marriage, but your husband chose to be with him, so you really can't blame his friend for your husband's choice to stay out late, or your husband's behavior when he's with his friend.
I don't know what good being mad will be-- it might just reinforce whatever negative anti-marriage crap his friend says. Being nice might work to your advantage.
There might be something in your attitude about "letting" a grown man go out and giving him a curfew that he finds belittling. I think you'd be better off giving your husband a reason to come home early.
2006-10-09 15:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me your husbands friend is a bad influence an is dragging your husband down with him.but if you say that to him he will think your only be possessive an want him all to Ur self.and it could cause a rift.I'm sUre ur husband will soon see that his precious mate is only out to cause trouble.i think he did want to come home at the time he should an its a possible his friend made him stay out by saying hes a wimp and Ur wife has u wrapped around her finger.hes just jealous that hes always with u an not with him
2006-10-09 15:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a grown man, why r u treating him like a child. Do you wait up until he comes home? Wow, he comes 2 hours after u want him to, and its the end of the world. Why does he need a curfew? I can see that ur marriage is going to have problems.
2006-10-09 15:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_love_vi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take this particular friend of my husbands to the side of the room and tell him exactly how I felt about him. And tell him if he ever tells your husband about your conversation you will deny it ever took place and who do you think my husband would believe? That should take care of the problem rather nicely.
2006-10-09 15:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your husband about your feelings? I think that that should be your first step. If you trust your husband then there shouldn't be a need to ban him from this friend.
2006-10-09 15:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation. I also have trust issues from past relationships that make it much worse. Did he tell you where he was? As long as he is honest with you and you trust him it should be fine. Talk to him about it.
2006-10-09 15:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop your husband. Explain your concerns with him and how his actions made you feel. You "insisting" he not go out won't stop anything.
If he's going to be unfaithful, it doesn't matter if he's with his friend or at work or wherever.
Talk to him. He'll listen.
2006-10-09 15:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by nyc_pharoah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is key very vital.you see without communication u will allow yourself to think the worst so.
take it easy talk about it ..its is very important ... let him know how you feel plus talk to him its healthy for your relationship,you need to talk about it ,but don't let it sound like you are nagging it is important that he understands your concern. but to answer your question. i don't think you should be mad. but you didn't also say if he apologized for coming late and even explained why ..
2006-10-09 15:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by painter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should?
are you or aren't you?
there's no law to feeling if it's there get it out.
you may or may not have some thing to work yourself up about.
2006-10-09 15:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mose F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋