I have told her how i feel at first she was cool with it we even have been getting "closer" but then she turned me away for a guy. I have tried to move on but since she is my best friend every time i introduce her to another female she gets mad at me like she still wants me. So i am very confused and i don't know what to do. I love her but she is frustrating me.
2006-10-09 08:12:00 · 12 answers · asked by haterage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I can certainly understand why you're feeling frustrated! Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants to have a man... and you in love with her on the side... and she'd like you both to accept that she is not entirely committed to either. In other words... she wants to act as if, and feel as though, she is the center of the universe. It's an ego-thing. She is being selfish.
If she truly wanted to be with you and only you then she wouldn't be dating a guy at the same time as you (even if she likes men too). I would express your feelings to her and explain that she can't expect YOU to be exclusive if she isn't. I just hope that this doesn't ruin your friendship with one another.
Best wishes.
2006-10-09 08:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. Or at least have been for the last 4 years or so. Only, I'm the girl with the man. My best friend didn't tell me she loved me until after I was married. I realized that I loved her too but I also loved my husband very much. And I sexually desired men. She was the only woman I looked at that way and she always will be. Thankfully, she's the same way. But, even though I can't be with her like that I know I couldn't handle seeing her with another woman. Another guy is fine because its not like she's replacing me. Maybe your friend is only "gay for you". And since you are obviously into women only seeing you replace her is hard because she knows she will never replace you. I know it sounds screwed up but isn't it screwed up anyway? Don't expect a simple answer.
2006-10-09 15:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE IT ALONE
it's pretty obvious she doesn't really want you for herself; but she is gonna be jealous cause she doesn't want anyone else to have you either.
ITS A WOMAN THING, you know that's how women are; women get jealous at stuff like that whether they want you or not sometimes. especially if you two are BF's.
I would move on while you two are still friends; she'll get over it. if you wait any longer (or end up getting in a relationship with her, big mistake) you both will regret it. and you'll loose each others friendship....
2006-10-09 15:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants her cake. Of course she can go out with a guy but when it comes to girl on girl she would probably rather be with you. So let her come to you and don't introduce her to any more females she doesn't want to be that gay, lol. She wants to be explicit with you.
2006-10-09 15:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is most likely in a sexual identity crisis...she is unsure of her sexuality...ask her straight(no pun intended)out if she would like to try a sexual with you..and if it dosen't work then you continue to be friends but that you will move on in your life..
2006-10-09 15:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is un sure of herself, have a talk with her and tell her how you are feeling
2006-10-09 15:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fuuck that! She is being selfish. She does not know what she wants. Give her time, when the guy hurts her, be there...and she'll be all yours.
2006-10-09 15:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is disgusting! Either she is your g/f or your Friend. If a Friend of mine told me that it would be simple no more friendship!
2006-10-09 15:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well she isnt sure if she wants to change what you have cause she's not sure about her sexuality. Just be patient and appreciate what you have with her :-)
2006-10-09 15:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a lesbian and your friend might be a bi who's second choice is females.
2006-10-09 15:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by sugar n' spice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋