My ex still calls and text messages me after 3 years telling me he loves me and wants me back. i still want to be friends with him but he really needs to move on. any suggestions on how to stay friends in this situation?
2006-10-09 08:05:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we also have dated other people over the 3 years and have not had contact for months at a time. even when he has a girlfriend he calls me and tells me this stuff.
2006-10-09 08:10:33 · update #1
You might have to sacrifice the friendship for the sake of getting him to quit obsessing and leave you alone! If being friends with the guy means you have to put up with the calls and messages...you have decide whether or not it is worth it. Honestly, if this person had a desire to be friends with you in return, than they should respect you do not have a romantic interest in them and leave it alone!
2006-10-09 08:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar experience. And the thing that worked best for me was to avoid taking his phone calls and responding to his text messages. Being friends with someone does not mean having to talk and text each other often. Sometimes, friends stay friends when there is a "respectful distance" between them. I decided that I would resume contact with my ex when I am pretty sure he has moved on and gotten over our past relationship. I guess that would be the only time when both of us will be truly open to a genuine, platonic friendship.
2006-10-09 08:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like it may not be possible at least right now. You need to make it very clear to him that you do not want anything other then friendship from him and be consistent about that point. If he continues then tell him you can not have anything more to do with him and ask him not to contact you or you will take a restraining order out on him. 3 years is a long time, are you sure you havent encouraged him even a little bit.
2006-10-09 08:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now your going to tell everyone you don't enjoy him chasing you??? It's three yrs and your still hanging on to him for just friendship?? Listen do him a favor and change your number.As far as you to being friends never happen.Not as not as he's still in love with you.You ought to be thrilled he still loves you after three yrs.Now stop enjoying yourself and cut him loose so he can move on and find someone who will so him the same love he shows for you.
2006-10-09 08:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by geargrinderno1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to be able to stay friends if he wants you back. He is always going to think you want him etc..every time you call. Leave him alone, and maybe someday when he is all grown up you can be friends.
2006-10-09 08:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying friends in this type of situatution is almost impossible. he is stringing you along , don't allow it. he is only keeping his obtions open , incase he doesn't find something better. but congradulations it has been 3 yrs. now of his games. don't play along , he will never take you serious. just tell him you need the space an time to get over him. good luck honey!
2006-10-09 08:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop responding to calls and / or texts. He will eventually get the message.
2006-10-09 08:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you and your boo are going out and would he and his significant other like to join the two of you. If he sees you have someone else, he will catch on that you two can only be friends.
2006-10-09 08:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with someone like that is not a wise thing to do. He has too many issues.
2006-10-09 08:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't talk to him for six months or so and tell him eventually you want to be friends. it's impossible to move onto friends w/o taking any time apart.
2006-10-09 08:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋