My girlfried is late...is she pregnant?

Question

So...my girlfriend may be pregnant. We are both only 18 and still live with our parents. How do I tell my parents about this? I feel like I've let them down.

What would you do?

Answer 1

Before you flip out find out if she is pregnant. Buy a home test or go to a free clinic. If she is then yes your parents and hers will be upset, but once they see that the two of you are going to stick together and figure out how to make it work then they'll come around. But before you borrow trouble make sure she is and then the two of you need to talk about it and make a plan and stick to it. My husband and I had our two daughters at 18 and no they're not twins, so it's doable. Take a deep breath and relax.

Answer 2

She may not be. Occasional anomolies in the cycles are not all that unusual.

If she is (go to CVS and buy a preg. test), it is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, by the way the two of you handle it, you could turn it into something great. My wife's parents married when they were around 17 (their parents had to sign a consent), so a young couple raising a child is quite common. But you need to dedicate your life to raising the child (stable employment, responsible living, etc.). Any dreams of partying or whatever need to be put to rest (trust me, you won't miss it when it's gone).

I don't know how your parents will react to the news, but you shouldn't feel you've let them down, and they shouldn't give you the impression that you did, either. They may be stunned at first, but they will quickly become supportive. My sister got pregnant by her ex-boyfriend a few years ago. My parents were/are very supportive, and the child is 5 years old now. Everyone seems happy.

If your girlfriend is indeed prego, and you handle it properly, this could turn out to be one of the best things that has happened to you.

PS: Don't get an abortion. I've been there too. It will scar both of you longer than you thought possible.

Answer 3

Don't be scared just deal with it. You have to know that it does happen. Think of it this way though, a MIRACLE is happening to you right now (if she is in fact pregnant) Be thankful that you are at least 18. She may not even be pregnant. Sometimes just worrying about it can make a woman late. If she is then be a man and tell your parents with dignity. Just tell them you know its not the best timing but assure them you can do it, but stick to it and make it work. Good luck!

Answer 4

Hon before you get all crazy and go off the deep end. First take one of those home pregnancy test then after a week go to the doctor and make sure she's pregnant. If she is you'll have to have a long talk with your parents and her parents. Then you and her we'll have to sit down and think about this. Remember make sure and stay positive. Good luck

Answer 5

Relax until you find out for sure, hust go get a test because to no for sure or not is way better thatn the wondering game. Maybe she is not and you guys are stressing for nothing. If she is, it doesn't mean you have to tell them the same day you find out. Sit down with your gf and talk it out, make a plan, and then tell your parents together, with your plan. This will show them that you are handeling the situation responsibly and maturly. Also, don't take their first reaction to heart, give it a bit to sink in, and I am sure they will be fine. Good Luck

Answer 6

First, she needs to go to the doctor and find out if she is pregnant or not. Then you and her need to find out what you both want to do, there are options. I am not for or against any alternative options. I am a single mother of 2 kids. It is very hard to raise kids when you are so young. I had my oldest when I was 18. If she is pregnant and you both decide to have the baby, then just ask your parents to support your decisions. Hopefully, they will support your decision and forgive your mistakes.

Answer 7

Well before you worry about it i would have her checked to see if she really is pregnant or not if she is, then you need to start planning on what you two are going to do,

are you going to stay together or split up,
this is the most important decision..... also if your going to keep it or not which hopefully you decide to if she is.....

With telling your parents do not feel as if you have let them down because you have not and if they love you they will learn to accept that you are going to have a child and they have no say in it..... Do not let them put you nor her down......

Good Luck!

Answer 8

look if u want the baby then u should keep it but remember u were man enough to do it so u have to be the same way with the responsibilities although women are always late how late is she anyway?

but just dont bring a baby to this world to suffer and if i were u not to offend ur parents or anything u kno but the legal age is 18just tell them ur trying to take the situation like a man and ur letting them kno that ur expecting a baby

Answer 9

She may be pregnant.I think you should take her to a free clinic and have a pregnancy test done,or buy a home pregnancy test.If she is pregnant you are going to have to sit the parents down and tell them, its the only thing you can do.There is noway to take back a pregnancy, so once its done its done.Your parents will just have to accept it,and I am sure they will.The only worry you will have is making sure you are a good father.Goodluck

Answer 10

YOU BOTH should go to the doc and get the test. and your 18 you should be able to tell your parents and you didn't seem to mind not listen to the rules when you were having sex so y should u mind now.just tell them they maybe up set but they will get over it. i was 18 when i got pregnant and i thought my parents were gonna freak but they were the most happiest ppl in the world so just tell them when u know the truth