i really love my boyfriend and he love me but idk if i want a abortion he says he will stay with me if i want to keep it but i dont want to push him in to anything what do i do
2006-10-09 07:48:26 · 23 answers · asked by smurf 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please Please do not get an abortion cuz your bf says to. It is your choice. Please check this link out and get some information:http://www.optionline.org/
2006-10-09 18:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok! First of all you have to be realistic as this is a very big mess you've gotten into! Having a baby is the biggest responsibility that you'll ever have. You are unmarried and I am sure that this is a concern for you since you will definitely need a lot of support in the future. If I were you I would do what's right (maybe sounds a little old fashioned) but you should be married and raise this child properly. However, if your boyfriend is unwilling to make a commitment or to take responsibility and grow up then the best thing would be to handle this alone.
Now I am not your mother but I'm just trying to help you see things clearly. There is a reason for everything and God is giving you this gift so now you must do the right thing. If I were in your situation and my partner's support was questionable then I would probably consider adoption because I wouldn't feel right that my baby should have to suffer. But this is up to you! I seriously think you would make the worst mistake to abort this miracle. You have to do what is right and hopefully from now on you'll realize how serious of a step you take when you have sex, planned or unplanned sex can always result in pregnancy...
2006-10-09 08:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im pregnant too and at first my fiance was worried and he wasnt ready and everything. Now im 5 weeks away from having a little girl. Hes so happy and he loves feeling her kick, he even painted her room. Im only 20 years old. Im nervous too, but an abortion is not any answer you should look too. If youre a good person then no matter what youll love and appreciate your child no matter what and thats really all that matters. As far as your boyfriend goes. I think its wrong for him to say something like that to you. He lacks the consideration to think of what serious outcomes could come of what he wants you to do. Have your baby and love him or her. look forward to the years ahead and the beauty of a child. dont throw life away like it doesnt even matter.
2006-10-09 09:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your body. Abortion is a pretty serious thing......very final. And babies are pretty serious too. Putting my feelings on abortion aside. Do you think the boyfriend will really stick around either way? Usually boyfriends that suggest abortion, are not in it for the long haul either way sweetie. Whether you do what he wants or not. Also, could you live with yourself? Really live with yourself and not feel guilty? A lot of girls think they can, and regret it every day for the rest of their lives. There are ALWAYS ALWAYS people wanting to adopt babies because they're not blessed with the ability to create their own. It is also extremely difficult to give a baby up for adoption. But you do it for the right reasons, because its the right thing. And you know you have brought your baby into this world and it lives on. And you have enlightened some other couples life.
2006-10-09 07:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥N,K,E&DJ'§ Mommy♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there might be some other plans of ur boyfriend for better future 4 u and ur child and now i think he is not ready to accept this challenge and so he wants some more time to do it... I feel that way as u have descriped in the question that u both love each other too much so be calm and loving and then have a good chat on it, that will definetely help u ....
2006-10-09 07:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by taral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not get an abortion take it from someone who knows adoption is a good alternative if you terminate it can be bad on you emotionally and mentally, people can be very judgemental about abortion, and it is not a fun procedure I don't mean to preach, but you are alive because your mother chose to have you give your child the same chance if you are too young or can't take care of it then let another family raise it at least it will get to live that way
2006-10-09 18:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard situation...my boyfriend didn't want me to keep our 3rd baby...we had been together for a long time but we had 2 kids we were having a hard time with already...but i kept her and he later told me that he was sop grateful that i did because he would have hated me for not keeping her even though it was him who want to give her up...you will have people in here telling you that abortion is wrong but it isn't their business it is yours...i had an abortion when i was 11...my uncle raped me and i mean god i was 11 years old! there was no way my body was mature enough to handle carrying a baby...i doubt that you are that young but either way it is a decision that you and your boyfriend have to come to together. you have to Tell him how you feel about it, otherwise he wont know.
2006-10-09 07:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha. He wants you to get an abortion then says he'll stay with you if you keep it? Leave him. Because he will most likely leave you if you have the baby. Don't get an abortion if it's not what you want. I say you both need to go to counseling.
2006-10-09 07:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by SassySours 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is saying he wants you to get and abortion but then he will stay with you if you decide to keep the baby. sounds pretty strange to me. the whole decision is up to you it is your body and your final decision, if you don't fell right doing it then don't. hate to tell you this but the bf can leave at any time either way you chose to go you are stuck with the decision for the rest of your life good luck
2006-10-09 08:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by melanie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him force you to do anything you don't want to do. This is your body and he says he'll stay with you then keep the baby, if you decide you don't want to keep the baby consider adoption, there are lots of awesome families that would love to adopt a newborn. Good luck to you and congrats!
2006-10-09 07:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him aside and think about what YOU as a person, and now as a mother wants to do. Don't let anyone, even the father, tell you what to do. Abortions hold risks too, for the procedure to future pregnancies. It isn't a quick fix. Sit back for a few days, without him, without anyone...and decide for yourself!
2006-10-09 07:51:51 · answer #11 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋