Is anyone else at university at the moment and hating every second of it?

Question

So far I've been burnt twice, scarred by someone who didn't say sorry, gone temporarily blind while trying to join the hockey club, made absolutely no friends even though its been over a week and yet I'm being nice to everyone I meet, got a completely screwed up timetable of lessons, (I'm trying to sort it out but it all just moves so slowly), I'm on tablets so I can't drink any alcohol whatsoever, and real lessons haven't even started yet so there's no routine.

I've now just tried to do the washing up. Someone was cooking pasta and poured their boiling hot water into the washing up bowl, I stuck my hand in and scolded myself. She just laughed and someone else made a foul comment about how I seem to just aim to maim myself every single day. I don't want to quit, on the grounds that I've got nothing else to do. And tonight we've got a Ball. I know practically no one but spent loads on the ticket and can't flog it, so I've got to go. Will things get better?

Answer 1

I hated my first week at uni too - I thought I'd made the worst mistake of my life. Like you, I thought the place was populated by idiots and debated whether or not to continue. Then one person spoke to me - this woman has now been my friend for over 20 years!

All I can say is stick with it, it will get better. And please don't forget, that everyone else (despite their confident appearances) is in the same boat - they're all alone and desparate not to appear so. Just go to the ball - you may end up having one!

Best of luck.

Answer 2

Poor thing! I hated the whole first year, hardly made any friends at all - and then suddenly the second year was a gas! So don't give up, try to keep yourself open to the people around you. Get out and do stuff. Don't worry about drinking, you'll have plenty of time for that and it's always the same. You'll find the way in is unexpected, and once you get going you'll never look back. And by the way, loads of people go to balls, hang around a bit by themselves and then leave feeling like idiots - it's not the end of the world. Be true to yourself, get off the tablets and have fun!

Answer 3

Yeah? Stick with it. Half the freshers there will feel similar, they just don't have the honesty/guts to admit it. Like you say, things haven't got into a patternyet and your course hasn't really kicked off.

I don't think you can blame being at university for your being accident prone - honestly, does this sort of thing not happen to you anywhere else - because I find most things objects are just waiting for me to happen to them!!!

If people aren't being sympathetic then you either have the misfortune to be in residence with a bunch of tossers, or nobody wants to be seen as being soft, so are using humour as a cover in reaction to your mishaps - the person who filled the bowl with boiling water probably felt guilty that she didn't warn anyone that the bowl was full of boiling water...

Go to the ball, make like your full of confidence (even if you're not, because that's what 95% of the other apparantly confident people will be doing), snog some total stranger and generally have a good time. What's the worst that can happen - a bunch of people you don't know and don't particularly like might not like you either?

If it all seems as bad at Christmas, then think about jacking it in, but I'm betting by then you'll not want to return to the parental fold because it will mean having to leave friends and sober up for a couple of weeks!

Answer 4

It will get better. It sounds as though you're in with the wrong crowd. Is there any chance of changing your digs to find more congenial people to be with? You will certainly find yourself making friends once lectures start and you come across people with whom you have something in common. Maybe you should be concentrating on joining a few less boisterous societies than the hockey club? Not drinking alcohol isn't a big deal. I didn't as a student because I couldn't afford it and I don't remember being a social pariah as a result!

I hope you manage to enjoy the Ball. Perhaps you could make a point of looking out for other solitary people who might be feeling vulnerable and talking to them. An awful lot of people are on the defensive when they start at university for one reason or another and they might be as grateful for someone who reaches out to them as you would yourself! And a girl who is engaged in animated conversation looks far more attractive as a potential dancing partner than a girl who looks as though she is carrying the cares of the world on her shoulders.

You are at university to benefit from the experience! Make up your mind that you are going to enjoy yourself no matter what!

Answer 5

Oh confident =[ i'm additionally 18 and already gonna be 19 next month! feels like each and every thing is going too quickly for me to even observe it, all i will say is attempt to stay each and every 2d and luxuriate in it as much as possible each and every thing comprises an end quicker or later yet all you're able to do is make the main out of each and every thing so in an prolonged time in existence you sense carried out and function a lot of excellent thoughts to look lower back onto.

Answer 6

Don't worry, I've been here 4 weeks and although all my housemates go out together, I'm always too tired and to be honest, they're all gorgeous size 8s, where I'm not! But we get on and don't take the comments from them too seriously, they're just trying to be light-hearted. Hang on in there and everything'll be good. Enjoy Fresher's Week because the work sure does pile up afterwards. Hope it all works out ok :)

Answer 7

Well, if it's only been a little more than a week, I'd say give it some time! Concentrate on the things that DIDN'T suck this week, even though they may have been few and far between. Try to grab those experiences and build on them.

Answer 8

sounds like you NEED to start drinking. I hated college all the way to the end but it's something you MUST do. Try not to sweat the small stuff.....just focus on your school work and don't worry too much about the day to day.

Answer 9

It'll get better, hang in there... You talk so cute too! lol

Answer 10

aawwww u need a hug!