My bf from grade school seems to critique everything I do, and choices I make, and I let it bother me, I'm really trying not to.
I tell myself she is going to think what she wants rather I worry about it or not.
Don't even know why I should care??? I let my mother do this to me too.
Any suggestions?
2006-10-09 07:37:28 · 15 answers · asked by tamilynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Say something!! Tell them! When they are critique(ing)(sp?) you say something like "Thank you but can you please stop doing that, I really don't like it" If she really is your best friend, she will stop.
2006-10-09 07:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about telling her? Delivery is the key here. Just invite her for coffee of something. Tell her you really want to talk to her and then when you sit down, start it off by explaining that you want to talk about something because it's bothering you and since you love her and value her friendship, you dont want anything to get between the two of you. Then just say that sometimes you feel that she is critical of the choices you make and that you would really appreciate her being supportive instead of negative. If you approach it from a loving place, then you'll be fine. And if she is pissed off about it, then you know what? Maybe she really isn't the kind of friend you want in your life anyway. Negativity breeds negativity. I learned that the hard way. Get it out of your life. You will be amazed at what you can do if you surround yourself with positive people.
Hey, you might even send your post to her? Ha.
Good luck
2006-10-09 07:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by HootieFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u passing urself off as an easy victim maybe? Usually when others critique u alot its because they are seeing something of themself in u that they don't like. Usually they are not happy with themself first. Next time ask ur friend why it bothers her so much? Maybe they should analyze themself first. Don't let them get u down. At least u are making choices! Others don't know how to make choices or are too scared to. Tell ur friend politely to abstain from giving u free advice unless u specifically ask for it.
2006-10-09 07:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by dreamlander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting them!! that's all they are is opinions and maybe you don't need 2 let them in on everything if its gonna bother you tell them you can make your own choices and if you fall on your face its all on you!! tell them 2 but out its your life!! tell your friend she needs 2 be more supportive or you need 2 find a new best friend!!
2006-10-09 07:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by finenazfuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to me too sometimes when my best friend or even a very close friend tries to condemn my opinion, i begin to think whether she is really a friend but sometimes, i try to ignore and sometimes i continue with the choice i'm making and try to shut her up. It would help a lot.
2006-10-09 07:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should put just a little time and distance between you and your friend for a couple of weeks so that when you have time together, it's more of a quality relationship where she's not judging you but sharing other interests.
2006-10-09 07:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Katyana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get thicker skin, learn to shug off critique or learn to dish it back. If not, you will become a doormat to the world.
2006-10-09 07:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't find a new mother so your stuck there but either quit worring about what this girl says as far as her opinion goes or find a new best friend
2006-10-09 07:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First tell your "friend" how you feel.
Second you should not be friends with her if she is going to be mean to you.
Thrid tell your mom how you feel, let her know it's not okay.
DON'T LET ANYONE GET IN THE WAY OF BEING YOU!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 08:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by myshinigami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seem like a gentle caring girl and i really dont kno why u let peeps do this 2 u . u cud try and tel ur bf how u feel and if she doesnt understand ,i dont think she"s a bestfriend at all and asfor ur mom well she is ur mom so she probably will understand
i hope my words help
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 07:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be "friends" with people who make you feel like dirt. They are insecure and belittle you to make themselves feel better. Find nicer friends- sounds like you've outgrown this one.
2006-10-09 07:39:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋