She is quite a close friend, and I feel like I'm in love with her, and I know it would be somewhat weird and awkward if I told her. But I kind of want to anyway. Is it a very bad idea?
2006-10-09 07:24:49 · 17 answers · asked by DS 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Incidentally, I mean it when I say I know she won't reciprocate.
2006-10-09 08:08:25 · update #1
Incidentally, I mean it when I say I know she won't reciprocate.
2006-10-09 08:08:31 · update #2
Oops .
2006-10-09 08:08:55 · update #3
I think you have already answered your own question.
Ask yourself this :
If you told her and it changed your relationship for the worst, are you willing to sacrifice that?
If you think she will not feel the same, there is no point to go any further.
If your willing to go ahead and just get it off your chest who is going to benefit from it.
Its a bit like what they dont know wont hurt them.
Is she in a relationship already?
You know sometimes its difficult to know if we like someone because they are their for us, or we like someone because we love them or the fact remains 'we are simple in love with them'
Its up to you to decide what it is?
I wish you the best of luck. but take care you dont loose a good friend in the process of getting something off your chest.
2006-10-09 07:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thought of telling her might sound wired and a bit too scary 2. But i guess you should take the courage and follow ur heart. and tell her exactly how u feel.. You love her.. and thats a beautiful thing to feel.. She is a lucky girl.. But by telling her u should not expect a positive out come of it.. Cause it might come up as a surprise to her.. So she might ask 4 time alone perhaps to think about it. Who knows she might have been waiting for you to tell her this 4 long time.. So you never know.. u might as well tell her now and see what it might develop in to .. then wondering What it could be like ? Andwhatever it maybe don't regret it or feel bad .GOOD LUCK
2006-10-09 07:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing as you just said she is a close friend of yours, meaning you've known her for quite some time, i think you should tell her how you feel. if you don't then say in couple of years time, she goes and finds another guy, falls in love and settles down with him for instance- i'm not saying this will happen but if it happens- you'll feel gutted and would probably have regrets about this afterwards. hopefully, with hindsight, she'll come round and understand. how long have you known this person, in terms of the number of years of the two of you being friends?
you could ask her whether she is with anyone right now and if she replies with no, then follow it up with whether she wants to be in a relationship with a guy. if she says yes, then ask her what type of guy does she go for, but don't get too personal and don't push her by making her say what she feels about this. don't rush things, take your time and when the time feels right for you and your friend to get things out in the open, then confess all to her about your feelings for her. but don't leave this very late.
i wish you the best of luck and hope you get what you've always wanted in the end!
2006-10-11 10:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. She may feel the same way about you and be too embarrassed to let you know. If she doesn't and she is a friend shes not going to make you feel bad and women just love to know that someone fancies them like crazy.
So either way I think you will feel better getting it out in the open.
Hopefully you being honest will be the start of a new chapter for you.
2006-10-09 07:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Billie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 00:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her, you might find she feels the same, and was iffy about saying so as well. On the other hand, it might make things too weird, and will drive you apart for good. Only you can decide, but it might be worth the risk?
2006-10-09 07:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by ALAN Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it otherwise you will never know and that will for ever play on your mind.
If she says know then it doesnt matter you will get over it and if she was a good friend then hopefully it wont change the relationship you both have.
2006-10-09 07:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you look at it. If you strongly feel that you should tell her, tell her. It's all up to you, but how will you know how she feels about you if you don't tell her? The least she can do is tell you that's she doesn't look at you any kind of way. Do what you think is best.
2006-10-09 07:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends whether you can deal with what may come of it? If she doesnt have the same feelings and maybe regect you! But also she may have the same feelings you just don't know just follow your heart!!
2006-10-09 07:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Tell her how you feel, atleast you let it out. If she doesnt feel the same, atleast you will know, you'll never be guessing. Anyway, as she's your friend, you know how she's going to react if you tell her, so its up to you, really. My advice, just be honest to yourself...
2006-10-09 12:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by -j4n3- 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋