What can i do when i'm being harrassed by my ex and his girlfriend????

Question

i'm being harrassed by my ex-fiance and his new girlfriend.he cheated on me after he proposed to me.about 2 weeks ago he broke up with me,and on the same day he went out with his current girlfriend,but he says he never cheated.i see him in school and he gives me letters that he and his girlfriend write that have bad words and negative stuff towards me.Please what can i do this has been going on for 2 weeks.i can't take this no more.school is awful now and i'm in my senior year of highschool and can't afford to let my grades slip.I NEED ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!!!

what should i do when i find out that i might be pregnant???

i already told him to back off and leave me alone,and some of my friends told me the same there are words such as dyke *** and sel-centered ***** and i would make their lifes miserable along with their relationship,but that is not my problem it is there problem if their relationship is not working out.i found someone new and don't want him back.i'm happy with that guy but i want the harrassing to stop.it stresses me out and i don't know what to do bout the stress.i am 18 years old.

my mom does know about all this and she saw the letters too along with my sister who is 21.both of them are very furious and my mom is really pissed and would just like to beat him.she does not want to be around him but she does support me.

Answer 1

Hey girl,

Well i would just ignore them if I were you act as almost if you do not care what they are doing. If you show them any signs of annoyance they will keep doing it.

Also, get someone new. No ex likes to see their ex with someone else, they get very jealous. Its kind of that thing again thats like you dont know what you got til its gone. I'm not saying go out with someone just to aggervate him but for your health to do not let them bother you.

Also act and know that you are better then them because you are a lot better then her, and if you want to play back with them just be like you know what its ok you can call me this but you know what *then come up with something* stick up for yourself and make them feel like crap instead of you for once.

Take care girl email me and let me know how it turns out!

Answer 2

Well, I don't like to bash anyone on here or call names, especially when it's a serious question but honestly sweetie..engaged in High School....that whole statement sounds silly. You guys are much to young for such a huge commitment. Did your parents/his parents know about the engagement??? Now as far as the harassment goes, because that's what it is, hold on to those letters (as proof) and take them to your local police department. He/She is/are harassing you and you need to put a stop to it NOW!!! Don't let some LOSER let you mess up in school, he CLEARLY is not worth it. Focus on your studies and MOVE on...there are PLENTY of fish in the sea, to be stuck on 1 fishy. Remember there is college next year for you and there are A LOT of hot fish in those seas..lol...cut your loses now and move on, focus on school and the rest will fall into place. If you don't want to do the police thing, then I suggest you just ignore the two "children" that are getting kicks out of hurting you. The more attention you give them, the more they are going to want to bother you, if you ignore them it will not be in there favor and maybe they will stop. Good Luck

P.S. High school love rarely works out...I am talking from experience..I have been with my HS sweetheart for 8 years, we have a 2 year old and I ain't engaged, or anything close to it...I actually can't wait till I can be free.....ONE DAY!

Answer 3

Tear the notes up WITHOUT reading them right in front of him and tell him you don't care anymore and mean it. Sounds like they are childish and made for each other. Pregnant? I hope you're not but if you are there are options. Use EPT and find out for sure. Then do whatever is necessary and move on with your life. As long as they know they can harrass you, and you take it, they will keep doing it. There are other men who will appreciate you for what you are. This, too, shall pass. It just takes time and guts.

Answer 4

What happened to you is a blessing in disguise. You are way too young to be making decisions about who to spend the rest of your life with - being only a senior in H.S.

Always remember that they are the ones missing out on you, not vice versa. You know the addage sticks and stones. The only time something that is said badly about you should affect you, is if it is true. Go one with your life, and ignore the a**holes.

In terms of the pregnancy, if it is true, make a good decision that will benefit you (since right now you are the only one who matters), and if it isn't, don't use it as a revenge tactic.

Answer 5

Listen this will all pass. Just ignore them and they will get tired of harassing you. If you make a big issue out of this then you will look like the crazy scorned girl. If you suspect you are pregnant find out as soon as possible. Then you can figure out what to do from there. And hun please quit having sex, you have plenty of time for all of that. Concentrate on school and being a kid. It all flies by so quick. Good luck.

Answer 6

Don't even look at his "letters". If he tries to give you one, walk away. Don't even get into it with him. She is probably still threatened by you and he is obviously a jerk so ignore them. After all, he's the loser who cheated, not you. They know you are letting it affect you so that is why they keep doing it. Let them know that you KNOW you are better off without either of them in your life. Get a new bf who is good to you and enjoy the rest of your senior year. Believe me, he's not worth it.

But, keep the letters you do have just in case it gets worse and you have to talk to your school or the police about it...

Answer 7

Do not throw away the letters, they are evidence. Go to the police and ask them for help, this is stalking and harassment and it is against the law. You could get a restraining order against your ex and your girlfriend prohibiting them from contacting you or going near you.

You could go to the school principal first, but sometimes they don't have a clear directive on how to act.

Answer 8

OMG he said bad words and things about you in some letters. How is that harrassing? Hurting your feelings isn't harrassing. Don't go to the cops, they aren't going to care. The cops have more important things to do.

Your worried about some "harrassing" letters causing your grades to slip? I think being pregnant would cause your grades to slip faster. I am sure you didn't did think about your grades slipping while you were having sex though.

Answer 9

you need to tell them to leave you alone and if that doesnt work you need to tell someone with authority ie parents principle police that they wont leave you alone and I cant tell you what to do if you maybe pregnant if you want to keep it tell him you need child support if not then handle your business but you need to put it out there dont accept anymore letters from them talking about you they are harassing you and its not cool do something about cause Senior year is supposed to be one of your best years so have fun and I hope for the best for you

Answer 10

Do not accept anymore letters from him and save back the ones you have received. Engage the help of your parents or trusted adult. Show them his letters. You need them to help you deal with this especially if you think you are pregnant.