I have a really really good girl friend...but somehow we always have arguements, mainly because I have lack of self-comfidents...
I always thinks that other people are better than me where she is keep telling me that I am not as bad as I think...now I am in a really bad siutation that she is now really upset about it where I just started another argument which the main reason is again that I have a lack of comfident to myself...I really want to stop this happeneing now, because I really really love her from my heart...
can someone help me please?? I would appreciate any answers...thank you
2006-10-09 07:12:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Set these words (i did many years ago till now....)" I AM THE BEST OF THE BEST" in your handphone and read it to yourself everyday. I did.
Try things that you previously dare not but NEVER NEVER BREAK THE LAW, INJURED YOURSELF OR ANYONE!!!
My personal example:
I was afraid of water hence i can't swim. I scared of many things, ghost, drowning, height and many many. Even after secondary school, I dare not jump down to a 3ft swimming pool. All my friends even a 7 or 8 yrs old small boy laugh at me.
I asked myself, is this going to be me for the whole life? Am I a born loser? No! No!
Without family or friends notice, I watched swimming competition video tape and practise on a chair (dry one) at home. Something like a "T" shape, chair below.
Abt a month later, I tried in a 1ft baby pool. Ok leh. I moved on to 3ft pool and so on slowly step by step.
17 yrs passed, I won more than 5 gold few S and B in free style competition NOTE: Non national level. Just company and clubs only, no big deal.
I do scuba at lease one trip a year now, both day and night dive.
I got a freefall cert few yrs back also.
I can do it you can do it!!! Or anyone who read this, you can do it too. Trust yourself, you can achived something that others may not.
You can create miracle, NEVER give up on yourself.
Remember, a stranger named Alan Chan will always support you silently.
Another pcs of advise:
Love affair may hurt ppl deeply. Do not put in all until you are 100% sure. But treat your gf fairly.
2006-10-09 09:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by alan chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first thing is this..you say she is a really really good girlfriend. If she is as good and understanding as you say then she will realise that you are lacking in self-confidence and perhaps want to help you by encouraging you to think differently. Is there a specific thing that makes you feel bad about yourself. Does she use your little insecurities against you?
Secondly, you have to do a lot of work on yourself before the problems between you both can be resolved. This may not be an easy task. A good place to start would be telling your girlfriend how you are feeling and that it makes you feel bad because you love her dearly. If she loves you as dearly then she will help you help yourself. It has to come from within your own mind for your confidence levels to increase. Do something that makes you feel good, and don't rely on other people to make you happy for you are the key to your own happiness. :)
2006-10-09 14:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by idiot! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take on some tough challenges. Do things you have never tried before because you thought they were too hard to accomplish. As you pick up victories, your confidence will increase. True self-confidence comes from achieving things you never thought you could reach.
2006-10-09 14:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kit B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay dude..imma tell you right now..that its all a state of mind..you probably think youre not good enough because youre comparing yourself to other people....stop comparing yourself to other people.....just think of yourself as an individual and youll have greater self confidence...remember..its all in your mind....i used to feel the way you do..but you just have to keep on going..and good luck with the girlfriend...sounds like a winner:)
2006-10-09 14:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ikaika R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence? Is that what you mean.
Self Confidence, is all you. Your either think that your worth something or your don't. Honestly it amazing how much better you can look when you can tell yourself "Damn I look good today!". Just believe in yourself and the rest will fall in place.
2006-10-09 14:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to college and learn to cope better. ind an interest that you both love doing
2006-10-09 14:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by rphilsell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please define 'comfident' then maybe I can help.
2006-10-09 14:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pray.
2006-10-09 14:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by hate school, love Dog Whisperer! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋