My boy and I has been together for 4 years and he want to get married so i told him we have to come clean with each other about the thing we did. so he did i found out he cheated on me over 200 time not because i was not good in bed or any thing but because he has a sexual addiction so he said. yes he been there for me thought every thing I concider him to be my family my best friend and this, someone please tell me how to forgive him because i don't know. I cann't do this
all my friend is tell me to forgive him but i am afarid that i cant. it to hard it hurts to bad
2006-10-09 07:05:29 · 24 answers · asked by doriabowen9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
200 times??? And you 'friends' are telling you to forgive him....they must have been part of that 200. Dump the creep, there is NO WAY IN H E L L he will be faithful !!!
2006-10-09 07:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him, it won't work. Reason 1 - this is going to be in the back of your mind forever, you'll never forget it, & you'll always be wondering if he's going to do it again. Reason 2 - if you forgive him & get married, he will think that he can do it again cuz you'll always forgive him, you already allowed him to be w/ you after all them girls, why would you not for 1, 2, 3 etc more (that's his way of thinking) and 3rd - how could u not have had a clue that he has done this, he must be very sneaky or you're "blind", eitherway, he WILL cheat again, and this will come up in all your fights. It's NOT your fault, if you didn't find out now, somehow you would of eventually find out, & it's better to know sooner than later. Break up and move on, your relationship if forever scarred.
2006-10-09 07:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I could forgive him either. Who knows if he hasn't possibly come down with an STD. If he needs sex that much I really think he should seek a psychiatrist something is not right there. I don't think you should have anything to do with him. Right now I'm going through a bad break up. I was with this guy for 2 years and he mentally abused me. He has done a number on me. I know that there is plenty of men in this world that are better people. Really sit down and think about your future. Where you want to be in 5 or 10 yrs from now. Do you want to always be thinking he is cheating on you, or do you want to be doing something else in your life? Good luck
2006-10-09 07:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by ELIZABETH Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I recommend that if he has an addiction that he get some help. Second, you need to get help together. If he is not willing to participate, then to the curb. Cheating is dangerous, think of all the things that he could be bringing home to you. Don't get married yet! it would be a disaster. A pretty wedding is no substitute for counselling. It may not even be an addiction, it could be that he is just unfaithful and looking for an excuse.
2006-10-09 07:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience, you cant forget something like that you just have to learn to live with it, but i would not marry this person right away until he could prove that he will not do it anymore. you have two ways you could look at it - he loved you enough to tell the truth- or if he loved me that much why did he do it. I suggest going to some counsiling before you take the step into getting married that is a very serious thing its a life changing choice, if you dont live together move in with each other first. then go from there. dont question him about other girls and dont throw it in his face just tell him that your hurt....talk and remember he is not the only man in the world that will love you and only you
2006-10-09 07:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by inluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but if you do this your marriage wont last. Once a cheater always a cheater. And if he hasn't got any help over this so called "sex" addiction he will never change and end up cheating on you the whole marriage. I don't see why you think marrying him is going to help anything. You need to get out of this relationship and find a true man who is going to be faithful to you!
2006-10-09 07:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do??????? Run as fast as you can, in the opposite direction.......
Can you imagine gettiing married , getting pregnant, having his children and knowing he is cheating 24-7 with anything in a skirt!!!!!!!!!
Your friends are all wrong! You are not a desperate girl, and obviously this relationship has meant alot because you didn't cheat...
Would a best friend or family member, lie cheat and belittle you with this kind of behaviour????? He is not your best friend or family... he is a cheater plain and simple.......
He doesn't deserve your love.. find someone else who does that can be faithful.....
he is such a dog>>>>>>>>>>>RUN< RUN<<<<<
2006-10-09 07:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no trust in a relationship you are going to be miserable. If you can't decide what you want to do right now, at least put the marriage plans on hold and take a break from each other so you can get a clearer perspective of what is going on.But my personal opinion is to dump him.
2006-10-09 07:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by chr1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 03:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him to get some help for his sexual addiction, if that's what he has, and then wait and see how it goes. DON'T MARRY HIM at this moment.
If you really can't forgive him, dump him. If he cheated on you before, he'll sure cheat on you again. And dumping him might be the shock that he needs to get help.
2006-10-09 07:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by slackster1998 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋