am a 17 year old girl dating this guy who is in his early 20s.i love him soo much that i allowed him to break my vaginity which i had always treasured so much i kept intact eventough i have dated five guys and droped them because they where demanding for sex.now i have being together with this guy for three years and now i see some attitudes about him which is bad. when i talk to him about them he either gets angry ortell me i have insulted him. i feel he loves me so much but i complained about his behaviour when he did a similar thing yesterday i told as we are dating we must all be able to correct each other when going wayward cos when he talks to me i listen and therefore when he does something wrong i should be able to tell him that i did not like what he did.but he told me he says whatever he wants to say to who ever he wants at any time but nobody must insult or saything like that to him
but he can. some body help me am confused cos he was the first guy who slept with me.help?
2006-10-09 06:58:36 · 8 answers · asked by cutie senzy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Okay, your man sadly happens to have the "I treat you like this, but you can't treat me that way" attitude. I'm sure he has wonderful personality-wise qualities, but this is a big baddie. You absolutely have to break him out of his shell by talk. Be gentle, be sweet, but show your stuff. Show that you love, but in order to be really in true love, if that's what BOTH of you want (be very sure that it truly is both of you), that he has to change that. If you end up confirming he's who you want to be with for the rest of your life, you're not going to be fixing his problem-- or at least helping him to help himself-- in 20 years, are you? No, you have to act now. For a good relationship, you need honesty, trust, and nearly most important of all, RESPECT. Arrogance and rudeness isn't going to bring either of you further in that direction of being a harmonious couple, honey. Talk to him ASAP. You'll know if he loves you enough to be willing to enhance the betterment of your relationship by improving his attitude and thus should stay with him. If not, leave. You cannot truly love him out of the pure reason that he was your first lover. Period.
Hope I helped you and good luck. : )
2006-10-09 07:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you have been dating him for three years and went out with 5 other guys,? First of all sounds like you were way to young to start dating when you were 14 years old . Where in the world is your parents to leave you date that young,? and him being in his 20's that is what you call JAILBAIT. and nothing else.Don't get LOVE+LUST CONFUSED. For either one of you.To bad you didn't hold off on sex until you got married how it suppose to be.
2006-10-09 07:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by tiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is easy to "be in love" with someone you loose your virginity too, and who you have been with for so long. If you feel you should break up with him, and you do not like his attitude then yes you are right. break up with him.
it will be hard, becuase you have shared so much and are so used to him. But sooner the better the longer you are in the relationship sometimes the harder it is to end it. Goodluck, and you will find so much better!
2006-10-09 07:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by k-mac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you're hurt, but it sounds like breaking up was the best thing. I think you're smart to rely on your head (knowing that his attitudes and actions aren't what you want in a partner) rather than your heart.
2006-10-09 07:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by cldb730 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you have been with him for 3 yrs that means you were 14 when you got with him.... you couldn't know what love is at this age... second of all go with your heart... third of all if he loved you he wouldn't of slept with a child, although you may not think it you are still a child. dump him, find yourself, and practice abstance... you're too young for sex.
2006-10-10 13:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose him Partnership and equal treatment is everything. Discuss all these things before entering any serious relationship.
2006-10-09 07:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the bum and don't allow anyone to treat you in this way.
Losing your virginity to this dude ...your world will not come to an end.
2006-10-09 07:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have his baby and go on welfare.
2006-10-09 07:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋