when I was 14 i was with a boy for a very long time. he was my "first love." he cheated on me and completely broke my heart. that has been two years and I am 17 now. I am so in love with another man and he is amazing. I never regret breaking up with the other boy. He has a new girlfriend. they have been together since march. She is 5 months pregnant and for some reason it is driving me nuts. I dont know why but i cry sometimes when I think about it. I would have never gone back to him because of how he treated me(with all the cheating and lies). but why do i still feel this way? I honestly love my boyfriend with my whole heart. I have never felt this way before... help please...
2006-10-09 06:55:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Never fear - it's completely normal. You know that you aren't in his life any longer but because he was your first love - he will always hold a tiny piece of your heart. It's probably more that you know how screwed up his life is at the moment and you feel bad for him. That's normal, but you do need to let him go completely and be happy for him, as you have both moved on.
2006-10-09 06:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will always have a special place in your heart for the man that was your first love. I am assuming that he also deflowered you as well. You said that you were in love with him. As girls we always look ahead to the future. We see the house the car the husband and the kids.
It is bothering you because the part of you that still loves him ( i know you will say that your love your bf with your whole heart, but lets face it, you still have feelings for the first guy), wishes that that was you carrying the baby. His baby. I know how you feel. I know the day i found out that my exs gf is pregnant it will hurt me a bit.
It is okay to feel this way. Just do not let it control you.
2006-10-09 07:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt that same way when my first love moved on. We were together 3 years. WE had been broke up almost a year and I was totally in love with someone else, and I found out that my ex was getting married. I cried over it. I couldn't explain why. I think it has something to do with the fact that he moved on and wasn't pining over me. I knew it was over, but a part of me wanted him to long for me forever and to be sort of waiting for me to come rushing back. .Crazy because you know you don't want them back. .... I remember when I met the ex's new wife, that was a real weird feeling. I felt like she had something that was mine.... He was your first love and you will always some sort of feelings for him... It will pass soon.. Especially since you have someone wonderful in your life.
2006-10-09 07:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you nevertheless have emotions on your ex? in case you dont have emotions, dont worry/sense to blame too lots! he's your ex boyfriend, you're sure to continuously think of a few issues he does are candy. Ive gotta say although....... in the adventure that your boyfriend unearths out i don't think of he would be happy! maybe it may be superb in case you instructed him your self, i think of he'd comprehend extra in case you heard it from you and he might even have the means to assist if youre puzzled approximately all of it! :) i wish it seems ok!
2016-11-27 02:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen you need to get over him and give ur current boyfriend your love.i am going through the same.i have been engaged to the guy for 5 months totally turned out that he was cheating.he broke up with me.i am 18.i still see him in school where his girlfriend and him make it hell for me.guys like that sare not worth it.good luck if you need someone to talk just send me an e-mail.i will check my e-mail but not everyday.peace jennifer
2006-10-09 07:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes things just happen that way. there's not really a reason to justify it. my advice to you is to count your blessings. thankfully, you left that jerk & you didn't get bonded to him thru a child. hopefully he has changed, but most likely he has not. now you have a new man in your like who is treating you the way you deserve- and when you're older & married you can have your own children with a loving & wonderful man. good luck.
2006-10-09 06:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by pureheart5110 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you could be broody seeing them happy and with a child on the way maybe you want the same thing but dont go there youll feel better when you know you can go out and have a good time and not have any ties
2006-10-09 07:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by shack 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont fell bad cause she will have to live a life of suffring because she will be 18 and have a baby which is way to young...youll be happy, he wont!!! :)
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2006-10-09 06:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by penguin, or maniacle evil genius 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could it have been your whining neurotic nature that split you up or your lack of sexual experience.
2006-10-09 06:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you feel lucky it wasnt you that is pregnant,
2006-10-09 06:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋