I have just started my MSc in London, and I'm feeling really lonely. I love the city, but I really miss my partner (who I was living with before I moved down to London, from Birmingham). My new housemates are really noisy and its really hard for me to get to sleep at night. I have asked them to be quiet, which they try to do, but I don't think they realise they ar being so loud. I don't want to nag anymore.
I live right by the train station, and everyday its so tempting to just jump on the train home.
I know I need to give it more time, but at the moment its awful. All the people on my course are really nice, but as the course is intensive, we are all very busy, and noone really socialises outside of uni. I love london and I love my course, but I'm finding it hard to be here alone.
I am sitting in locked lab now, typing this, as I would rather stay here than go home. I feel so depressed there.
Anyone ever felt the same?
2006-10-09 06:29:14 · 14 answers · asked by Cheeky Chops 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
maybe find another accommodation...
2006-10-09 06:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've been exactly where you are (on a 'master's', too, as it happened). The noisy housemates will always be a problem, but the secret is not to spend too much time in your accommodation (which is presumably why you are in the lab at the moment). Most people, especially when parted from some one they love, will have pangs of homesickness. This is normal, but research has shown that the feelings tend to become bearable after a few weeks. I know this is not much comfort for you tonight, but please accept that things will become better, particularly as you get further into your studies when you'll find yourself focusing more on your MSc than on your feelings of homesickness. And when you see your degree almost within your grasp you'll also realise that soon you'll be back home for good.
So please don't get too despondent; when you hold that master's diploma in your hand you will be pleased that you had the strength of will to stick it out. Good luck to you, anyway.
2006-10-09 07:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by avian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heya
Im currently studying at uni so i know what you are going through especially when your very unfortunate to be housed with the wrong type of people.
If your in halls asked to be moved into a different flat, there are always rooms available and if your lucky you will be housed with people who are really easy going.
But if you are in private rented then try and mingle a bit more with your current flatmates it will be hard and expensive to break your contract so think about it first. Invite your boyfriend down to stay with you for a whole weekend starting from Friday then you will also feel a bit more settled in your new house.
My class mates were also quite unsocial people but i quickly came to know everyone in the class very well and encouraged everyone to go out as either small groups or large groups to clubbing, eating out, cinema, generally everything and soon everyone became more social with one another and it was a much pleasant place to be in.
But u need to start off slowly build up relationships with small groups of people or even one person coz it will make a difference but you also need to remember to circulate and introduce the people who previously haven't meet before and before you know you will start enjoying yourself.
Hope things work out well with you
2006-10-09 06:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks, I'm sorry. Maybe you can go out with your classmates. I know they're all busy and usually don't socialize, but maybe you can suggest group study or something. That way, you're hanging out, outside of your house, but it's something that's easier to convince busy people to get in on.
If you can't move out of your house, try sitting down with your roommates and setting house rules. It's not nagging; it's your place, too, and you need to be comfortable there. Maybe you can have quiet hours, where after a certain time at night, the tv and radios need to be set low and no one can have a bunch of people over without permission. It's hard, but it'll help. And who knows? There may be other problems that other people have that can be brought up then, too. It'll probably do wonders for house unity down the line.
Just hang in there, and while you're working on improving your situation, concentrate on the little things that make you happy. If you're feeling depressed, go for a run or call up your partner or family. It will help, at least a little bit.
2006-10-09 06:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by random6x7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I think you are really terrific to give up being with your boyfriend, family and friends to commit yourself to study. I have not been to Uni but my kids did and they got homesick quite a bit even though they hadn't left partners behind. Could you get a web cam on your computer and speak to them once a week or something and it will be a nice thing to look forward to. Perhaps your boyfriend could come down occasionally for the weekend too? Perhaps you could write your flatmates a litle note and tell them how difficult it is for you to get to sleep. You MUST make time for social activities and join in the social life at Uni though. Thats all part of it or else you could be on the Open University. I wish you every success with your studies. You deserve it.X
2006-10-09 06:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey there, maybe you can go home for the weekend or so. Don't give up! you've made it this far! Just hold on tight. You pay rent too, so do not feel that you are nagging at your roomies, they should respect your feelings. SO I suggest rather than nagging, just sit and talk abotu it over a nice cup of tea and pie! Good Luck to ya!
2006-10-09 06:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally empathise with you. I've just started my undergrad psych degree and I don't really want to be here. I didn't want to come in the first place; it's my dad who wants me to get a degree coz uni's a 'good opportunity'. I really don't like it coz everyone's always going out but I'm not really into that kind of thing so I just end up stuck in my room bored most nights. My mum keeps telling me to give it more time but I know deep down that I don't want to be here. I can't find anyone I can relate to and I'm sick of walking into the dining hall and eating alone it's so embarrassing and I feel like billy no mates lol. I'm just sick of the constant pressure to do well, to 'make a good life' for myself etc etc...
2006-10-11 04:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Cheeky Chops,
Sorry to see you are feeling a bit down. Why not propose a study group to your colleagues to exchange ideas outside the uni setting. Also, go to the union when you can and make new friends. I know how hard it was to do a masters degree so I understand what you are going through.
Stay with it
Good luck with the masters.
2006-10-09 22:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwwwwwww! I cant say I felt the same, but even so just wanted to tell you to hang in there! Is it possible for your partner to come see you for a bit? Something like that to look forward to might make things more bearable.I'm sure you will settle into your new life soon, take care love!
2006-10-09 06:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
meet some new friends and email and keep in touch with your old ones and meeet up for a night in london and meet friends together and try to join in with your flatmates and arrange a night out with them youll feel much better soon
2006-10-09 06:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by nonni xxxxxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you not change residence perhaps and about the missing home thingy i would speak to the councillor at uni that's what they are there for and it is all confidential good luck and hope things work out for you x
2006-10-09 06:38:15 · answer #11 · answered by NetNet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋