A girl and I have been dating for approx. 5 mos. and a few days she confirmed that she is indeed pregnant.
She is totally against having this child....
Reasons I've gathered so far are:
She's not ready for a child.
We haven't been dating long enough
Not ready to settle down.
This was absolutely unintentional. I have a daughter already she's 7 and I had no intentions of having another child. At least not at this point in my life.
I don't believe in abortion but there's no way i'm going to be able to suggest alternatives to her and she listen.
Any advice on how I handle the mental strain I'm feeling? I can't eat, sleep, Concentrate, etc.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks for listening to me ramble......
2006-10-09 06:23:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thank you to everyone for your input. Later this week we'll be going to the pre-screening appt. which I assume is required for abortions that will explain the process and risk involved. I guess I will wait and see if her mind is altered at all. Please keep us in your prayers.
Thanks Again!
2006-10-09 07:28:23 · update #1
She is the one who will risk her life if she decides not to bring the embryo to term, not you, so it's totally her decision.
2006-10-12 02:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry that youre going through this. I too am against abortion and havent even stopped to think about what a man would do in your position. Tell her exactlly what you feel and hope she changes her mind. If unfortunatley she doesnt, you need to find someone else. She obviously doesnt care about your feelings and she isnt worth this stress. If she goes through with it, know that you did everything in your power to stop her and you shouldnt have to feel guilty. My heart really goes out to you and I will keep you in my prayers. Im really sorry that you have to go through with something like this. She will eventually suffer the repercussions of her decision. She may not have on this earth, but God will not forget. Some woman would be very lucky to have a man such as yourself. Im sorry I cant do more.
2006-10-09 09:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear you are in this situation. It's totally unfair that the woman seems to have all the say in whether or not a child lives, when it takes two to create it. But since she carries it....... that's where it comes in.
You have to do what you feel is right, but if it were me, I'd not want to be with anyone who killed my child. You should at least get some counseking to help woth the stress and depression you are feeling.
Good luck, and maybe this girl will change her mind.
2006-10-09 06:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself have never had an abortion so maybe my opinion doesn't really matter. but i also got pregnant with my boyfriend when we hadn't been dating that long. we'd only been together for 4 months. that didn't change anything though, we're still together and we actually just had our second baby 3 months ago. as for thinking you wouldn't have another child this late, my mother got pregnant with my brother when i was 12, and my older sis was 14, soooo.....there's always the thought that u never thought you would have another but lo and behold. just let that girl know that abortion is not a form of contraception and she needs to think this over thoroughly before doing anything she may regret later.
2006-10-09 06:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her abortion is murder and it is a sin God will never forgive and not a form of BC, she wanted to spread her legs and be so grown up and now she has to pay the price.
Do you have a lawyer? Not long ago a girl wanted an abortion and the father of the child decided to take her to court and they ended up fighting for weeks over it and by the time it all got settled it was to late for the abortion so she had no choice but to keep the baby or give it up for adoption and since she did not want it the father got custody,
2006-10-09 06:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to understand that this is her body and her decision. It really isn'tup to you to decide. I had someone decide for me and it wasn't the think that I wanted. If she doesn't want to have the baby then support her. That is all you should do. Support is the best thing that a person can give. She is probably scared. Just let her know once how you feel and then leave it at that. She will decide and that is a good thing.
2006-10-09 07:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider adoption as another option to explore. Abortion is unfortnate, that you to concieved a child out of love and now this is happening. If you do this, this will haunt both of you.
You would be more likely to handle the mental strain of a child, than the guilt of a homicide on your mind.
Please choose life.
2006-10-09 13:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gardenfoot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i haven't really had to go throw it but I've been in the shoes of making a decision because my didn't want childern i was really close to killing my child that is know 10 years old and i would give a million dollars for, His my word, so don't kill a child that has never had a chance if you don't want it then give it up for adoption it a lot better then to do away with it.
2006-10-09 06:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by lafred116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are in such a situation. I don't know of any counseling organization or "club" that I could direct you to. However, I believe strongly in the power of prayer. And from my stand point I believe that you & your girlfriend together should seek some religious counseling. Study "The Word" together and seek God's direction in your life and your unborn child's. You are in my prayers.
2006-10-09 06:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did have an abortion at one point, and the mental and spiritual drain it took on me was endless.
I would sit down and discuss the options with her, and maybe even go to planned parenthood together, and talk to a counsler for free. About different options, they can help the both of you.
Abortion is very perminate what I learned. Best of luck.
2006-10-09 06:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋