My husband was adventurous with the other women in his life; all of whom were Caucasian or some other race. I'm one of only two African-American women he has been with and he never married any of the others, but why can't he have the same passion with me. I will admit I have a problem with his history when it comes to women. He is a wonderful man and takes excellent care of our new family, so why can't I get over his early penchance for non-black women. I guess I'm creating a problem when I shouldn't because a lot of women would say if he is good to you why think about the past. It's just sometimes I find myself wondering if he misses the other women. How can I get over this and stop comparing myself to the pictures of white women I see in his photo albums.
2006-10-09 06:22:20 · 10 answers · asked by impressionist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all have a past. It doesn't matter what race, size, hair color or what ever....the past is the past. If you want a relationship to survive and grow then you have to look forward to what is ahead for you two in a relationship and not back wards. He probably looks at those old photos and wonders what he ever saw in those other girls compared to you and how beautiful and wonderful you are.
2006-10-09 06:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good grief, lady; why did he marry you??????? it's time to provide up being submissive. that isn't what marriage is meant to be approximately. tell him in no uncertain words that if he's so freaking disappointed, he's familiar with the place the door is. And make it stick. you may no longer help yet be plenty extra effective off without him. conversing from experience, maximum astonishing adult men comprehend it and are not truly actual worth the difficulty to have them around.
2016-10-02 03:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one that he married, none of the other women were good enough to marry why would he miss them? Spice things up if you feel like your falling into a routine, surprise him sexy notes in his car or new sexy outfits, it will be fun for both of you, just remember the other women are in the past he has his future with you.
2006-10-09 06:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He married you, not the other women. Why don't you tell him that you feel insecure about those other women? Let him know that you are an adventurous lady! Think up something for you too to do together and go for it!Don't let the devil play tricks with your mind. Forget what your mind says! What does your heart tell you?
2006-10-09 06:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by donna h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comparing yourself to those other women is something that will create problems. Just realize those women are X's... for a reason too. You are his WIFE, the woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with... not those white girls. So be proud that HE CHOSE YOU!
2006-10-09 06:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I don't want to sound redundant but these other women are absolutley correct- he married YOU! Talk to him, express your feelings/fears...he cannot help you if he doesn't know there is a problem...tell him you would like to try new things (bedroom or otherwise)...give your husband a CHANCE to show you how special you are to him! You are a one-of-a-kind woman, there is NO women in the world like you......he married YOU...irreplacable to him, because no one can fill YOUR shoes!
2006-10-09 07:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are creating a problem because you are already bored with the routine.
Also known as drama queen.
So get over yourself, get over your doubts and just love you man.
2006-10-09 06:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl why are u tripping, HE MARRIED YOU!! see in the world there will always be beautiful people , but your husband chose you, i suggest u get some marriage counsling....and marriage gets like that sometime, men are simple when they get married they say why try i got her already ..so dont trip ..iam porteguese and my husband is black and gurl to put up with him i swear it has to be way pass love...Good Luck
2006-10-09 06:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you stated, you need to realize you may be creating a problem where they may not be one. If you want passion why not IGNITE it?
2006-10-09 07:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is history...forget about it.
2006-10-09 06:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋