They talk about the same things all the time, and they are invasive. I feel kinda sorry for them, but I don't really like to be around them that much. I can't tell them how I really feel or they would be really hurt, and so would my husband. I don't want to hurt anyone.
2006-10-09 06:16:46 · 18 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
a wife's loveand patience is never ending. Your husbands parents are part of him, and if you love him, then you love your in-laws! :) I understand its hard, but showing your husband how good you are to his parents, will show him how much you love him...! your husband is worth it!
2006-10-09 06:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess they feel pretty uncomfortable around you too. It is nice you do not want to hurt them. Sometimes people ask inappropriate questions when they are nervous, as well as repeat the same things over and over again. It sounds to me they may feel like they are walking on ice with you. Since you feel sorry for them, you have already placed yourself above them as if they are at a lower class of humanity. Your husband has to be walking a tight-rope too. I feel very sorry for him. Family's should be able to be open with each other.
Our daughter-in-law has made it very clear to us she doesn't approve of us in many ways. We celebrate Halloween by decorating and passing out candy to children. So for that, we are not as good of Christians as she and her family are. We are not acceptable. She treats us, like we too, should be felt sorry for. I pray she eventually will learn to be accepting of our differences.
2006-10-09 13:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know mine are kind of annoying too! I just deal with it, and stay away as much as I possibly can. I don't think my man likes my family very much either but we get by... Good Luck ; ) Sorry I don't have a better answer.
2006-10-09 13:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they lonely-empty nest-do they have other couples their age they visit with? If they questions they ask are invasive-just answer that it is between you and your spouse and IF you need some advice, you would be glad to ask them. Put sign on the door they always enter-this is our time together-I know you understand,thanks and sign your and let hubby sign his name.AND do not answer the door.
2006-10-09 13:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by tenngrangran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
steer conversation to other topics-as far as invasive goes you ca n say that's private , between me and ___, best to keep family relations intact without being malicious, by the same token, you do not have to accept invasion of privacy. good luck
2006-10-09 13:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youd' better bring this up with your hubby - he may be expericing the same feelings about this and perhaps you can find a solution together. After all he knows both of them better than you do -
2006-10-09 13:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately when we get married we marry more than just that person. We marry into a family and as such you have to just learn to grin and bear it. I used to have in-laws like that and I just did my best to find things when I had to be around them that kept me busy instead of just sitting there listening to them and having to answer all their questions.
2006-10-09 13:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe try changing the subject to something else. don't respond to the same o'l conversation,maybe change the subject to something better,it could be they can't entertain that well so you start off the conversations .lol try that way if it doe'snt change then let your husband know how you really feel.maybe he see's it to.
i feel for you and good luck
2006-10-09 13:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THEY GET TOO INVASIVE TELL THEM IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. YOU COULD ALWAYS FAKE A HEADACHE WHEN THEY COME OVER. HAVE YOU TALKED TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL? IF YOU HAVEN'T, YOU REALLY SHOULD TALK TO HIM.
2006-10-09 13:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by MR. RETARDO IX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then stay quiet and when they ask you invasive things, just say... Its kind of personal and Id rather not talk about it.
2006-10-09 13:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋