Months ago my hubby started talking about Yahoo Answers. Nowadays it seems he's addicted to it! Since it's so important to him I decided to "check it out" and I am really pissed off at some of the things I've read. Hundreds of people know him by his yahoo name and if they were to see and read what he says openly about our marriage they will know intimate details about us that I don't care to share with anyone else! Do you guys THINK ABOUT THAT before you give such private details about your lives? Do you think about the other people that will can be affected and hurt? There are marriages and families at stake here! It seems you do this as an amusement - just fun & games - but for those of us being OPENLY DISCUSSED behind our backs it seems a violation of privacy. WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS?
2006-10-09 06:05:21 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I wasn't too clear with my concern previously. First of all let me clear one thing up - my husband and I talk about EVERYTHING - all the stuff he is talking to you guys about here! We discuss sex and religion and politics and family and how to raise our kids and fantasies we have - I mean everything! One of the things I loved about him was that we could TALK with each other. He has ASKED only like 4 questions but he has ANSWERED about 1000. The thing that disturbs me is the kind of questions he is drawn to, the reasons why he is compelled to answer and WHY he is sharing personal information with these people! By the way he IS using his email name so anyone of our friends who emails to that address and looks on "answers" KNOWS who he is!
2006-10-09 08:24:51 · update #1
Pamela, please give a few minutes of your time. I would like to explain to you why I am on here. I am going through a rough time in my life right now, I don't ask a lot of questions. As a matter of fact I have only asked 4. I take this very seriously. I don't leave rude comments, I don't judge people, and I try to help. Sometimes it seems a stranger can help, when a close family member or friends can't. You can check out my previous answers, I take care and time with all my answers.
My husband is like you, he's not one to share problems. It stays between us. I hurt his feelings by some of my answers, because he didn't like me giving examples. I love my husband with all my heart. We have been married 26 years. I respect his feelings that we don't talk outside our bedroom, but I did slip up and said somethings he took wrong and didn't like me sharing. I apologized. I don't have anyone to talk to, I can't share my problems, because I am not allowed to talk with anyone. I need help to, so I used this site to help me better understand what's going on, and no one knows who I am. We could pass on the street, or even sit down by each other, and never would know that I am the one who asked the question or answered.
There are so very rude people on here, but life's full of smart asses. Life is rough, and we all need someone to convide in. Get opinions, and suggestions that maybe will help in our relationships. Pamela, he may have felt he no where to turn to. At least he was asking for help. I am not sure what he was asking or answering, but I am hoping he's not one of the those that are rude and insulting. I am hoping that he asked for help. Please reread the questions, if that is the case, and think about him being at the end of the rope, and just so lost and confused that he felt he needed help. It's a lifeline to some of us.
Please please don't group all of us into one catergory. We are all on here for different reasons. I would be glad to answer any of your questions too. I pray that you can overcome this hurt, and that you and your husband can be all the better.
God bless us all.............
totally lost
2006-10-09 07:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are several concerns that you have though the crux of your concern is that you feel violated by what your husband has divulged in a "public forum." I think it goes without saying that you will need to discuss that concern with your husband.
As far as other individuals expressing their thoughts about what an "ASKER" states or questions, hoping for a response, I think most people here are genuine when they make their response, right or wrong in the eyes of the beholder to the answer. If marriages and families are at stake, that would be the choice of the one who is asking for help or stating an opinion. For some it could be fun and games. It may not be that way for your husband though.
Talk with him about your feeling violated, you may be surprised by his answers.
2006-10-09 07:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by pane2nou 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you feel that it is violating your privacy then you should sit down and discuss the problems with your husband and answer the questions that he needs answered, If you did that he wouldn't need to come on here and ask other peoples opinions about it because he got it from you personally. You can't blame him for needing to get what ever it is that is bothering him out of his system. And you can't blame any of us for answering and giving him our advice. To tell you the truth, I don't even know who you are talking about. Most people that are serious on here answers the questions & gives their opinions about what ever the question is (like now)! But that does not mean that they are only wanting to read & help out just that one person. There are tons of people on this earth that needs comforting in some ways. Especially when they feel like they are unable to communicate with the person that it is about. If you sit and read the questions that your husband has written, maybe you will begin to understand what the situation between the two of you are all about. Don't criticize what is probraly helping your husband. You wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot and he was criticizing you for it.
2006-10-09 07:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to realize that it is a bit addictive. You have every right to be upset but take at it as an opportunity to see if your husband has a problem that he has confided to Yahoo! not to you and why has this happened. I would be just as upset but now it is done & it is not that a big crime for your marriage to be in stake. I feel the reasons for this to happen aredeeper. Would your reacton have been the same if what you had read was something you liked (it would still be behind your back)?
2006-10-09 06:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by marissa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you that a lot of the questions here have way too much detail however many of the people on here like the anonymity and never think that it's going to get back to their families, friends or significant others. I also believe that there are several people on here who enjoy the "attention" they get when they post a question.
You really need to talk with your husband about his actions. You may find out that this isn't the only place that he shares details of your life together.
Good luck!
2006-10-09 06:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
okay maybe he has talked openly about his marriage online and shared intimate details, but maybe his sharing them as he feels he could help other people with their problems and could give them some advice from his experiences. but he could be sharing his thoughts and feelings (sorry if this offends) here because he feels he can't with you... maybe you should ask him why his doing it and sit down and carmly disscuss it.. and okay i get the fact you feel violated, hurt, angry, pissed off, and embarressed but have you though that maybe you have some very good advice from things in your life that you too could share and maybe help someone or is that being to intimate for you to suggest.... yes and we all now thats peoples live and marriages are at stake but people like to get other peoples advice and their opinons weather they take it or not is up to them... everyone has a choice... talk to your husband and ask him for his......
2006-10-09 07:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by StormSender 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since hardly any of us know eachother personally... and the chances of running into any of you out there in yahoo land are slim to NONE... I dont have a problem with it at all... as far as sharing info goes, he is probably just giving examples or explanations. I dont see it as a big deal at all... But it takes alot to make me mad, Im pretty laid back and so is my husband. I say not to worry about it... Like i said... chances are you arent going to run into these strangers... So why would you care what strangers think or know about you? Good luck
2006-10-09 06:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your going just a bit over board here. Sure its ok for you to feel hurt and worried and even a little angry. But a LITTLE hon. I mean its just yahoo....not the U.N. or anything. And like you said, people know him by his yahoo ID. They dont know his name. your name, your address, phone number or anything else. I also like yahoo answers as well as chat and all kinds of stuff on line because its ANONYMOUS!!!! Dont worry so much about what he's sharing...you should be worrying about why he isnt sharing with you more!!!
2006-10-09 06:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by christine a 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with him sharing information/experiences about his family, as long as the details aren't too intimate. I wouldn't want my husband discussing our sex life on Yahoo Answers, but if there's an experience that I know will help someone else, I think I'd be okay with him sharing it, again, if the details weren't too intimate.
2006-10-09 06:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My god, do you need some cheese with that whine? I don't give a RATS butt who read the details of my life. I DON'T OPENLY let anyone i knew WELL know my id this id is NOT MY YAHOO I'M ID anyway. He sounds like a very popular man if HUNDREDS of people know his id. I can count on ONE HAND those who know this id is mine. AS for hurting family's ANY ONE WITH HALF A BRAIN KNOWS TO NEVER USE THERE REAL NAME FOR ANY REASON ONLINE.
2006-10-09 06:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋