have sex with another woman while i watch? She has gone to the topless bars with me and has even gone to pervert row with me and let the women put their boobs in her face, touch her, and suck her boobs and man was that a turn on! I told her I would love to watch her go all the way with another chick..thought that would be the ulimate way to spice things up!!! Don't get me wrong, we have a great sex life! We have been married for 15 years and we are very much in love....When we went to the bars together, we both came home hornier than ever..i just think her with another woman would be the greatest thing ever and I told her I would just watch unless she wanted me to join in...she is considering it, which is cool but some people think I'm asking too much..what do you think?
2006-10-09 05:57:49 · 20 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to be fair, i guess i should add that she is considering it because she said she would do anything for me..so i don't think this is something that she would consider for herself
2006-10-09 06:05:11 · update #1
Man, don't put her in that situation! You will be opening doors that you aren't even aware of yet. Enjoy being with just her & let her know that she is enough for you. Don't go there with her! Think about more than yourself.
2006-10-09 06:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This could really damage your relationship. There are MANY things to be considered before having a threesome...which is what you would be doing even if all you do is watch. I guess if she is okay with it then its fine....you are both adults and what you do is your business no one Else's. But Suppose you do do this and its GREAT and lets say a few months later she tells you it would really turn her on to see YOU with another GUY...You okay with that one? I mean she fulfilled your fantasy you willing to do the same?
I think it may be safer...in more ways than one....to just go rent a girl on girl movie and watch it togeather....no third wheels that way and no surprises down the road.
2006-10-09 13:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this will end up causing major friction in your marriage. Think about it. The first time your wife becomes insecure or you guys have a major fight about something, this will come up. Don't throw your marriage away for this. Some people can do this and be fine, but I think someone always ends up getting hurt in the end. She may not be quite as comfortable with this as you think. This may be what she thinks you really want so she's doing it. If it's not really what she wants, this could really hurt her. If in doubt, go talk to a therapist first to square away all the details with her and make sure this is really the direction she wants to take. Once you start, you can't go back.
2006-10-09 13:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by KM77 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This isn't love. You have no respect for yourself or the standards of your marriage. That is real "cool" that your wife is considering "it" The only thing that says is that both of you have issues. Why don't you grow up and get over your teenage fantasy of watching two women make out? Get yourself a life and find other ways to "spice things up" 15 years of marriage made you ignorant and stupid not more committed. How about have a marriage you are proud of instead of indulging your immaturity. Hope your daughter never marries and idiot like u! When your daughters husband wants to see her rub her face into another woman's breast tell me how proud u are!
2006-10-09 13:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
i guess that you should not ask that of her because i am sure that she is doing that only for you. maybe she feels that if she doesnt, you might start looking elsewhere!! Well, i guess there is a limit as to how far you can go in a marriage because the next thing that might just turn u on might be your wife having sex with other men while you are watching. Be careful of these kinds of games, its like a snowball effect. you just cant stop it. You should also be careful esp because of AIDS and other STD. If you love your wife truly, then please respect her and her body.
2006-10-09 13:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You mention: “she is considering it because she said she would do anything for me” If she was into it that would be one thing. But I think you’re asking too much & this could backfire big time. I’d suggest that you keep it as a fantasy between the two of you.
2006-10-09 20:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Scalawag-101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would slap you if I were your wife. I have gone to topless bars with my fiance and everything, but sex is just between a man and his wife. I guess, luckily, my fiance agrees with me. If she is into that, go ahead, but there is a difference between having boobs rubbed inyour face and going all the way.
2006-10-09 13:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by JENNIFER G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too much. Sounds like you are trying to whore her out for your own sexual fantasy.
The next thing you'll probably tell her is.... gee you got some why can't I...
If you allow it to happen your marriage is no longer a marriage. It will be a lie. Keep it a fantasy or let her go.
Amazing what happens when people just...add alcohol!
2006-10-09 13:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your life, but I would never break my marriage vows in this way, it cheapens the sacred bond and it's the thin end of the wedge, once you start letting other people in to your marriage bed be prepared for lies, rows recriminations, jealousy. But if your marriage can cope with that then fine. I would feel like a cheap whore if my b/f asked me to do this.
2006-10-09 13:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I was you I'd be worried that she may like it too much.
Then you're out in the cold.
Having sex with people outside of your marriage is playing with fire. No matter how in love you two are.
2006-10-09 13:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋