2006-10-09 05:50:32 · 15 answers · asked by i crave yours 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when the love is gone that's it it's gone - you walk away knowing that tomorrow is another day -live life
2006-10-09 05:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a covenant between two people and God. When we begin to love another person unconditionally as God loves each of us in spite of our faults and imperfections, then and only then can a relationship have a firm foundation. Through the years, people either grow together or grow apart. Both must have a foundation commited to God first and then to each other. God gave each of us a free will, but it is up to each of us to know what His will for our lives is. This only comes through prayer and studing our Bible to know the right thing to do. The divorce rate is at an all time high today even in the church. People are deceived into thinking the grass looks greener on the other side, but when you get over there...guess what? You still have to mow the lawn! Regardless of what it looks like today, put your trust and faith in God and no other person. Only God can change a person's heart, not us. Keep your heart pure and not allow bitterness or resentment to come in. You can only be accountable for you and no other person. Miracles still happen, but God's timing is not always our timing. His is perfect and He knows exactly what you need. Put your trust in Him and no other person. God will never let you down. Hope this helps, I understand where you are at, because I just went through something similar to this after 25 years of marriage. Please don't give up hope and stay focused on the truth!
2006-10-09 06:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love never dies instantly. It is a chipping away slowly at the little things in life that used to make life fun and peasureful. Love is a choice. When you married each other, you both made a choice to love each other. You both had responsibilities to work at making it work. If one of you got lazy... and took it all for granted... then you made a big mistake. It can be fixed. You both need counseling. Someone will choose to not be in love when that love is redirected to someone who appears to be loving them more or in new ways. Marriage needs to be kept fresh and alive. You can do this by trying new things and learning new things with each other. Never stop giving.... your time, your love, your friendship, your romance... Marriage is all about giving. If you became a taker...and stopped giving... then your marriage is in trouble. Giving money and sex is not enough. A healthy marriage needs to make life a contest to see who can out give the other. Sometimes marriage bog down when you start believing your own thoughts about someone else...and not standing in their shoes. You have to talk out your feelings... by saying... "When you do this..... you make me feel like this....." Otherwise you are only guessing. communication breakdowns often destroy the marriage and one gives up and walks away.
2006-10-09 05:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love just doesn't "go away" without a reason. There were probably relationship issues that went on for years before the love went away. It can happen. It happened to me but in my case, my relationship was with an alcoholic and the problems of a relationship with an alcoholic made my love go away.
2006-10-09 05:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sabina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is the most overused lame catch phrase man has invented. That's what i think. Love is work. If you want to stay in love you work on it. Period end of sentence. If you want the other person to respect you, you come up with a better excuse than that. For example "I met someone else." Then they have a real concrete reason .
2006-10-09 05:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to my husband for 6 years. We recently decided to divorce. We realized that we just weren't meant to be together that way. We are great friends now. He comes over and hangs out with my boyfriend and I. His girlfriend is uncomfortable with me, so she doesn't come. I still love him, in a way, but we just weren't meant to be married to each other. We have 2 beautiful children, and that is all we will ever have.
2006-10-09 06:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by JENNIFER G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just lack the maturity to actually want to try and make things work. It's a very sad thing when it happens.
2006-10-09 06:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you don't love them, move out get a divorce, break up, then don't go around them. Barely talk to them. Try to avoid them at all cost, even if they are persistent about seeing you. The more you don't see them, the easier it is to forget about them.
2006-10-09 05:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's easy to some people but hard for others. Have confidence and tell him/her that i love you but the connection we use to have is no longer there. Can we still be friends though.
2006-10-09 05:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by princess_cheta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a great mystery in life. I have no idea. People say you can fall out of love but I don't believe that.
2006-10-09 05:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you dont do the things that help you earn the love it will be lost, i think basically you just sit them down explain what you want and why, the love is no longer their , i hope things work out for you.
2006-10-09 05:59:54 · answer #11 · answered by sonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋