My spouse is bipolar and my family hates her. they say she is crazy and that she will kill me in my sleep one day. I have also heard that bipolar people have a tendency to be paranoid and abusive. can anyone shead some light on this matter?
2006-10-09 05:47:35 · 18 answers · asked by bungalo 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Statistically, you are very unlikely to be in any danger. If your wife is bipolar and unmedicated, she has perhaps a 1 in 4 chance of attempting suicide, so she is far more dangerous to herself than to anyone else.
At the high end, mania can turn into psychosis, with delusions and hallucinations, so paranoia is certainly possible. As for abusive, well certainly verbally/emotionally. I know I was before being diagnosed and medicated. It is part of the manic end of the spectrum - judgement goes out the window, I'm afraid, and with it any chance of normal relations.
2006-10-11 05:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother is bipolar and I haven't seen her since I was 12. That's been about ten years ago. She was very selfish not really that physically abusive but mentally. She has threatened to kill me a number of times. She was in denial and refused medication. I have known other bipolar people and was very wary of them at first until I realized that it CAN be controlled by medication. The people that refuse medicine are the ones to be afraid of. A lot of people do not understand mental illness and they assume that anyone with any sort of imbalance is "crazy" and untrustworthy. If you love your wife than you should support her. Think about how you would feel in her situation. Your family hates you and everyone thinks you are crazy.....it would make anyone paranoid. If she refuses medication than there is nothing that you can do to help her, but if she is willing to help herself you should at least try to be supportive. My family has disowned me because of their ignorance of of mental illness. They assume that because my mother is bipolar that I am too. I have had a psychiatric evaluation done and I am fine. It seems that with some people once they make their minds up it is impossible to change their opinions.
2006-10-09 06:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by Roc21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. to be really honest with you .. no not everyone that is bipolar will be abusive or paranoid ! Some just get that way because they feel alone with their mood swings ! They just get really aggravated easily and over nothing sometimes.. they just need to find something or someone to help calm them down !Don't ever push them into doing something and don't ever try to argue with them !lOl I know all of this because I am very bipolar .. but I have found things that make me calm! Like writing .. listening to music ... or reading .. or just taking naps or u know whatever !! LOl.. So goodluck .. I hope I helped !
2006-10-09 06:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Leah s 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my dad is bipolar and yes he does get paranoid and not physically abusive but he has gotten emotionally abusive but as long as he stays on his meds everything is alright but the problem with bipolar people is that they think that they dont have a problem so some have a tendency to stay of there meds but help her stay on her meds and all should be well!
2006-10-09 05:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by snookie3892 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar people can be both paranoid and abusive but all that can be controlled with medication...the hard part is keeping them on the meds, they feel like the meds don't let them be who they are.
2006-10-09 05:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sonya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that your spouse is "bipolar"? What is she doing about her problems... or does she not believe she has a problem?
Do you believe she has a problem, and based on what? Labeling is what people who know no better do. It relieves their anxiety regarding the "unknown". Have you discussed with your spouse what you fear? Or the reason your family holds such ideas
Too many unanswered questions for any reasonable discussion.
Peace
2006-10-09 06:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she has a good Doctor, bipolar people do need the council of a Doctor. My Granddaughter is bipolar, sometimes she is a little paranoid, but she takes medication.I would never imagine that she would hurt anyone.
2006-10-09 05:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My parents were living in a duplex apt. with a person who had bi-polar. This lady should have been in a psychiatric hospital. She ended up trying to kill my parents with her car, then she got home and saw her parents there. She took a knife to her mothers throught and later tried to kill her father. Bi polar is a bad disease of the brain. I suggest you inform yourself more and get you and your spouse into counseling if you would like to continue this relationship without getting physically or mentally hurt. Good luck, you're gonna need it.
2006-10-09 05:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by skybluebabyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and you better be careful!! I think your family is right. Where I live not too long ago, some guy (bipolar) stabbed his wife to death a couple years ago because he wasn't taking his medication (they wanted to have a baby). I'd be very afraid.
2006-10-09 05:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends if she's Bipolar I or II....but basically they go from a severe depression into manic episodes where they feel on top of the world. It's not really about paranoia or abuse, but when they feel down....they can be slightly paranoid. Is she treated with lithium?
2006-10-09 06:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Miyakichan 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋