I am on the pill, that doesn't work....
the reason why I want to lower my sex drive is because, I'm sick and tired of feeling like I have to beg for it out of my husband every 3 or 4 days, He never wants to make love to me, and I want to be on his side of the fence if you know what I mean.... I want to not want to make love, so I don't feel like sh@% everytime I ask for it and get turned down..... are there any tips?
2006-10-09 05:45:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Honey, you're not the one with the problem. A good sex drive means you're healthy and normal. What's not normal is your husband's sex drive. Don't think its something wrong with you! I would suggest you buy yourself a top of the line vibrator if your husband isn't going to deliver in the bed room!
2006-10-09 05:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my wife, my sex drive is like a corvette and hers is like a Volkswagen-- two different styles and gears- I could go two times a day she prefers once a week ( if its that soon ) so I quit asking ( begging ), now is up to her to make the move and I'm still waiting--- when you find a solution let me know maybe it will work on her-- she tells me she can not do it that long or too often because I last forever and it makes her sore
2006-10-09 05:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, reading your question was like a looking into my own head. : P
I have the same problem, and even with constant reassurance and love from my boyfriend (of 4 years), my self-confidence, among other things is plumeting. I'm also on the pill and that didn't really change anything for me.
I would follow someone else's suggestion and purchase a toy or two of your own. Granted, it's not as enjoyable as being with someone you love, but it can still be just as good.
2006-10-09 06:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by CollegeMeg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU don't have a problem, your husband does!! What's his deal, anyway? A healthy sex drive is totally normal. You shouldn't be considering taking a pill to change yourself - you should be considering marriage counseling. You and your husband should be having intimacy, and you need to speak with him about what's going on with him, or see a professional couple's therapist.
Just because your hubby isn't interested doesn't make HIM the normal one. His low libido shouldn't be seen as the standard by which you measure yourself. You two need to have a serious sit-down about this matter.
2006-10-09 05:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lori 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't want to imply anything, but if your husband doesn't want to make love to you, you might want to see if he's cheating on you because that isn't quite normal. If he has a low sex drive for another valid reason and you love him, it is very kind of you to want to change. You may want to see if you can masturbate or get yourself off on your won, instead of changing your natural sex drive. Sex drive is good. See if your husband can help you with it. If he loves you he'll understand your needs.
But if u really want to lower your sex drive, have children, and work. Then you won't even have time or strength for sex
2006-10-10 07:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by coochie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a high sex drive, he has a very low one. Once every 3 to 4 days is perfectly normal. That is about how often I want it. If he has a low sex drive, maybe you should talk to him about maybe why he doesn't want it.
2006-10-09 06:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Seph7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats just awful!
It should be the other way around..
But, I know how it feels because the same thing happens to me sometimes.
Usually its because hes tired, doesnt feel good, or just not in the mood. So when that happens I try to do a little extra to help him get in the mood :) Like getting dressed up and wearing something sexy, getting a glass of champayne, lighting some candles, and that works most of the time! Give it a try
2006-10-09 05:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that either he starts taking care of his homework, or you're going to get a tutor! I'll bet he pays more attention to you after that!
2006-10-09 05:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't think there's anything wrong with your sex drive....talk to your husband and let him know what's going on and try to work it out from there..........
2006-10-09 05:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sexxssay? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen the movie " the Break up" just do Jennifer Aniston Tricks and turn him on
2006-10-09 06:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by bu735seif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋