this girl in my class smells like wee how do i tell her i dont wanna hert her fellings i dont like her but shes a nice girl who needs to be happy! (shes a loner) help!
2006-10-09 05:15:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
if you dont fancy saying anything to her directly, explain things to your teacher, and she can maybe have a quiet word with her on your behalf.
2006-10-09 05:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by david429835 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think the idea to ask a teacher is the best. If you leave an anonymous note then you might fuel a paranoia and make her feel everyone is watching her and never knowing who sent it could be even more upsetting for her.If she is a loner this could make her feel even more unable to trust someone. If the teacher is made aware of your concerns then I think it will be dealt with the most effectively.
Why don't you like her? Is there nothing about her that makes her approachable? Her self esteem must be rock bottom and she is probably an absolute gem of a person just neeing someone to make feel that personal hygiene is part of the feel good factor. She really does need a friend.
2006-10-11 23:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..... letters or emails or texts, especially anonymously!
This might make it easier for you, but can you imagine how you would feel if you would feel if you were to receive one????
I think the best thing to do is to have a word with your teacher, she may know how to handle it, or understand the girls situation better then you know. Perhaps they have a school nurse, or counsellor who can have a chat with her. Its possible she has a very unhappy home life, or nervous incontinence, or medical condition, some people have over active sweat glands, a million and one reasons, but clearly she needs some help, just be kind and hand it over to the professionals.
2006-10-11 12:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please DO NOT say anything. It is lovely that you are concerned, but I can't really think of a nice way to say someone smells. If she is a loner and she smells maybe shes very upset already and would be more upset if you told her. Being as nice to her as possible and trying to get her some friends while ignoring her smell would be nicer maybe.
2006-10-09 06:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wanttoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is cool that you are concerned about her and want to help. You could slip a note in her locker. She'd never know who it came from but she'd be aware of the situation. Something simple like:
Dear Jane,
You are a really nice girl, but sometimes you seem to give off a funny smell. I don't want to hurt your feelings, I just want you to be aware so you can avoid it in the future.
XXX
I'd put it in her locker as late in the day as possible, you don't want her all freaking out all day at school, best to get it right before she goes home!
2006-10-09 05:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by anniewalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you can smell her then there is a good chance that she can smell herself. Be respectable about it. Pull her to the side and politely tell her. No one else needs to know about the conversation. In the end she will respect you for being a woman about the situation.
2006-10-09 07:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anna Mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to tell her of course but if I were you I would probably tell her in secret. Of course she will be embarrassed at the fact that you noticed the smell but I think its best that it comes to her attention in a honest way so everyone won't make fun of her. Help her get rid of the smell if you can.
2006-10-10 06:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by shorty_by_nature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try approaching one of your teachers?? I had a problem with a girl who I worked with who although i was not keen on did not want to hurt her feelings by telling her she had a bad odour, so I told my boss. The teacher should be able to tell her, it is a shame that she has this problem and it could be something that she needs help medically with, Good luck oh, and I admire your sensitivity
2006-10-10 02:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by widow_purple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bootie
The best thing you can do for her is to tell her. You seem to be a nice person and it would be awful if someone cruel was to tell her in a bad way. Be brave and take her to the side and tell her. Its the right thing to do
2006-10-13 00:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame - you don't know what kind of circumstances she is living in at home. I think I would be inclined to send her an anonoymous note or e-mail. I just couldn't confront someone - I would be far too embarrassed. Just make the note nice.
2006-10-09 05:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will cause her embarressment whether you tell her or not. perhaps see if there is a teacher or counsellor who will know how to relate to her. if she is as sad as your picture you have painted of her, then it is possible that coming to school is an ascape from a bad home life, so she will be needing gentle hands on this , so that she does not become humiliated and start skipping school.
2006-10-10 04:27:07 · answer #11 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋