what would you do if you discover that your friend supports those who talk against you?
recently i found out that my close friend was laughing and supporting those who believed that i am stupid.. he has started behaving as if he is great. he is ignoring him for no reason. he just wants to be with those 'new' group of people who are similar to his innate character- laughing at others., thinking he is great, those who consider they r cool and others are not.
i think the trouble started when i started calling those who waste time and not study are fools. we r in medical school and i beleive my friend dies not have the attitude to be a doctor. but the problem is, i am unable to cope with his new behavior as we were friends for almost 6 years and then this happened...
your suggestions are valuable for me to cope with this new situation where i am always thinking about that and unable to do anything else at all!
i hope you can help.... :-)
2006-10-09 05:14:40 · 5 answers · asked by good med stud 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
You really do not need friends like that. You are in medical school for one reason, to become a doctor. Do not let the talk get to you. You do your thing. You will find that during your medical school years you may feel like your back in high school dealing with all the clicks. Well it is because you spend so much time with them. You are also going to find that people's true colors come out. Many people are at different levels of maturity and are trying to find themselves.
Talk to your friend and let him know how you feel and tell him/her that your friendship is important to you. Do not make him/her choose between you and them because it will get worse. If this person is a true friend then they will understand and come to your defense.
However, try not to spend all your time in the books. I was a medical student, was a surgical resident and now I am an anesthesia resident doing a year of research. I have been there. For a semester, I spent all my time in the books and was miserable. My grades did not significanly improve either. After that I adopted the study hard and play hard attitude and I think my sanity returned. Now I am not saying you have to go out and party all the time and get wasted or anything like that. I went out with friends and found other hobbies. Guess what, my grades improved too. You have to find your balance that will help you through medical school. Try to find other people in your medschool class that share your views. You need a support system during these years. Trust me it makes a difference.
As far as those not having the "attitude" to be a doctor. There is really no set attitude. We are all different. You will find that there will be a student or two that drop out every year. They will realize it's not for them or someone will tell them they are not cutting it. You just worry about your thing. Good luck over the next few years. Hope this helped.
2006-10-09 05:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by soccerpeeps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you value your friendship but you've been hearing that he's supporting people who make fun of you. Tell him that it bothers you to know that he's willing to throw away a 6 year old friendship away for popularity.
You would think in Medical School one would be more grown up about these things. We see these behaviors in high school and some in college, but a graduate school? I'm sorry your friend is behaving this way. Sometimes friendships aren't meant to last.
If after you speak with him he blows you off or gives you any other response other than your desired one. Just tell him you're sorry he feels that way. Then stay away from him for a bit, give him some space to realize he's being a tool. Hopefully he will before it's too late.
2006-10-09 05:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit em down and have a talk about it. worst thing ever said is the thing that was never said. regret is not a road I travel upon. it is a lane that I learned from and do not oft return.
2006-10-09 05:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront them. Friends should be friends no matter what, and they should always support you no matter what. Sometimes, friends need to be awakened to how you feel. If you've been hurt, let them know.
2006-10-09 05:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by nmtgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends like that one has no need for enemies.
A real friend will defend a friend.
2006-10-09 05:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋