Is it impotant to have a best friend and does it matter if it is a mixed gender friendship.
2006-10-09 05:12:56 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Best friends can be anyone.
2006-10-09 05:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gender only matters when you are eight years old and boys and girls do not some within 12metres of each other for fear of cooties. People must just grow up! We are in the post-post-Feminist era yet there seems to be some kind of an unspoken rule that men and women can't be friends. Really, how can we move forward as a world when we can't even get over the fact that one person is a female and the other is a male.
Just because two people don't share the same gender does *not* mean that they must fall in love or have some romantic relation and that friendship is automatically cancelled out!
So chill out, people! People are people, not matter whether they prefer golf or shopping (which is a generalisation, I do realise)
Bottom line? Females and males are just as likely to have a good relationship as two males or two females
2006-10-09 05:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are these best friends? I have seen some mixed gender ( good phrase) friendships that lasted into adulthood. Most however are between preschoolers up to about 3rd or 4th grade. This is when girls and boys decide that the other has cooties. What matters is the caring that goes into the relationship. It really doesn't matter who your best friend is as long as you care for each other.
2006-10-09 05:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, life cannot be defined by the events which it consists of, rather those who you share it with. Without my best friend, I don't think I would be the person I am today, for I feel as though he was given to me by God at a time when I needed him most, and miraculously he has remained by my side ever since. He is my favorite person in the world, and I think I would die if he was no longer a part of my life, regardless of his gender. Even though we will probably be tormented for the rest of our lives, others insisting that we like each other as anything more than just friends, my best friend and I know the truth and are stronger than that. Some claim that it is impossible for a boy and girl to be friends without falling in love or anything, but this is not so. All of my friends are boys and I am not a whore, so I'll only end up with one of them. The only downfall I see is when he gets married and can't see me anymore, or when I introduce him to Gonchoo, and I'm forbidden from seeing my other friend. Also, because Gonchoo and I are friends, and NO HE IS NOT YOU (eww), it ends up so that he would never consider me as more than. It makes them oblivious. I dunno. It hurts to think.
2006-10-09 05:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it should matter some girls prefer to have more guy friends than girl friends because they think girls are too much drama... so it's possible to have a mixed relationship at times yes one will fall for the other and others they can just keep it a friendship. but yes i do think a boy and a girl can be best friends
2006-10-09 05:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Joanna G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter at all what gender your best friend is. i have heaps of guy friends. As long as you're not in love with her or deperate to get into her pants then it is a great thing and she will be able to help you with all the stuff you can't talk to your male friends about. I don't think it is important to have a best friend. You can have a few friends who are just as important as each other. I do.
2006-10-09 05:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be friends, gender has nothing to do with it. Neither should race, religion or anything else.
A friend is some one you can trust to share your thoughts and feelings with. Good friends are few and far apart. Cherish a good friend and do not care what others may think. You know what is in your heart and that is what matters.
2006-10-09 05:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's common for a girl and a guy to be best friends. Most of those relationship end up where one person falls for the other but if you guys are best friends and want to remain that way then that's all that matters!
2006-10-09 05:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it, but it usually happens for 3 reasons: (1) they're childhood friends and have been friends for a long time. (2) they were once in a relationship that didn't work out but want to keep one another in eachother's life. (3) one or both are in a serious relationship or married, so they both know nothing will ever happen, but they see eachother on a regular basis, like work, and just keep thing platonic.
2006-10-09 05:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of my best friends are guys. The only difference is what you can and cant talk about with him or her. I think it is a good thing alot of times. It can help you be less shy when it comes to talking to the opposite gender.
2006-10-09 05:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Clover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy who was my best friend for 9 years and it was just a friendship but than I had a guy for my best friend and were dating now. I think it is important to have a best friend.
2006-10-09 05:16:12 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋